Topic: I need help - males please
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Mon 03/24/08 12:55 PM
Only thing I can think of saying to all that is ??? he's a PLAYER ... I would hope that a true gentleman, would either HAVE the difficult chat with you, OR at least call and say thanks BUT its me not youflowerforyou ... sorry JMOflowerforyou :wink:

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Mon 03/24/08 12:56 PM

some guy are just out for one thing.



not all of us guys are like that if they do not call you back then they are not worth the time or day for you to talk to



I'm sure not all guys are like that but how do we tell the difference? And they say women are hard to understand lol

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Mon 03/24/08 12:58 PM


ok well here is what the deal is... hell really I dont know I would have contacted ya it would be a month or so before i would start ignoring ya have ot wait until after I had ya locked down then not give you as much time while i find another woman to play... currently I have 3 and in a couple weeks will start working on my 4th


ok this is a prime example of what gives us men a bad name......


Thank you for speaking up and defending your gender!!

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Mon 03/24/08 01:00 PM


I don't understand the male species (well the ones I've met recently!)
Ok, I have had a few dates over the last couple of years and what I find difficult to understand is the men who, while on the date, tell me how nice I am, would like to get to know me, would like to go out with me again, and then never contact me!!!!!
I just can't understand their way of thinking, can anyone explain this strange ritual???????


It could be a couple of things-

- they could either not be into you and they don't want to hurt your feelings (as was stated earlier)

- they could have trouble expressing themselves. This could be because they're afraid of showing their inner emotions, or they've put up walls from previous bad relationships, etc. (this is something I have a bit of a problem with)

- they could also just be scared to death of calling you back, as they fear you might rip their heart out and stomp on it. There's a lot of fear and trepidation involved with dating, you know.

If you're into the fella that much, and you have his phone number, try breaking with tradition and give HIM a call. If nothing else, you'll find out why he hasn't called you.


I have done this too, and I just get excuses, obviously I don't expect you guys to do all the running

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Mon 03/24/08 01:02 PM

Only thing I can think of saying to all that is ??? he's a PLAYER ... I would hope that a true gentleman, would either HAVE the difficult chat with you, OR at least call and say thanks BUT its me not youflowerforyou ... sorry JMOflowerforyou :wink:


you would think that would be the easiest thing to do wouldn't you, it saves any misunderstanding or hiding!!

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Mon 03/24/08 01:18 PM
Hey disenchantedangel,

It happens to ALL of us, not just angels and Jill's either!!! Quick shout out to Jill. You can't take it personally, or let it make you feel bad. Eye on the prize, sweetheart...and concentrate your thoughts on the those that think you're the prize too.

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Mon 03/24/08 01:21 PM

Hey disenchantedangel,

It happens to ALL of us, not just angels and Jill's either!!! Quick shout out to Jill. You can't take it personally, or let it make you feel bad. Eye on the prize, sweetheart...and concentrate your thoughts on the those that think you're the prize too.


Awww thanks for that. I'm beginning to get all bitter and twisted!!

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Mon 03/24/08 01:22 PM

Hey disenchantedangel,

It happens to ALL of us, not just angels and Jill's either!!! Quick shout out to Jill. You can't take it personally, or let it make you feel bad. Eye on the prize, sweetheart...and concentrate your thoughts on the those that think you're the prize too.

Amen to that , AND I couldn't agree more .. "eye on the prize" ... great phrase flowerforyou

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Mon 03/24/08 01:23 PM


Only thing I can think of saying to all that is ??? he's a PLAYER ... I would hope that a true gentleman, would either HAVE the difficult chat with you, OR at least call and say thanks BUT its me not youflowerforyou ... sorry JMOflowerforyou :wink:


you would think that would be the easiest thing to do wouldn't you, it saves any misunderstanding or hiding!!


Nothing beats communication ... good OR bad ... but some people I guess are better at it then others ... hang in there flowerforyou bigsmile

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Mon 03/24/08 01:29 PM


Hey disenchantedangel,

It happens to ALL of us, not just angels and Jill's either!!! Quick shout out to Jill. You can't take it personally, or let it make you feel bad. Eye on the prize, sweetheart...and concentrate your thoughts on the those that think you're the prize too.


Awww thanks for that. I'm beginning to get all bitter and twisted!!


Don't go to that ugly place, dear. Bitter never attracted anything good...twisted you should save for your honeymoon. hehehe

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Mon 03/24/08 01:30 PM
Thanks all for answering, It's made me feel a little less pessimistic!! flowerforyou happy

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Mon 03/24/08 01:31 PM



Hey disenchantedangel,

It happens to ALL of us, not just angels and Jill's either!!! Quick shout out to Jill. You can't take it personally, or let it make you feel bad. Eye on the prize, sweetheart...and concentrate your thoughts on the those that think you're the prize too.


Awww thanks for that. I'm beginning to get all bitter and twisted!!


Don't go to that ugly place, dear. Bitter never attracted anything good...twisted you should save for your honeymoon. hehehe



Lol thanx for that flowerforyou

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Mon 03/24/08 01:34 PM
My thoughts would be that THEY got what they WANTED!!!:angry:

Or they felt they didn't really like you after meeting you, and didn't have the balls to tell you that!

And the 2nd here would be a WIDE case of both men and women...

I will always tell them MY REASONING even if THEY see it as an insult or me looking in a bad way in their mind.:cry:

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Mon 03/24/08 01:35 PM
Guys like girls are not complicated at all once you study them and learn from observation. I love going to a bar with a friend when I was younger and she was single we went in and danced and had a blast. I would see a guy giving her the eye so went to the bathroom and came back 10 - 15 mins later and from afar was watching the whole scene unfold.

As soon as I left and was out of sight, they would make the move to her. she would never dance, just talk to them as soon as she got a drink I would come back and sit down and the guy would be like um uh I uh, I was like go ahead finish the conversation.... They would so leave.

If she really liked the guy I would introduce myself and say she likes you we are just friends go ahead and dance.....


Now if she saw a woman giving me the eye she do the same, leave and watch from afar.

The nonverbal signals we give off are so obvious to the trained eye. You must know it is not only hand signals, it involves the entire body, posture, and facial expressions, etc..

Like I said in a different post:

http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/92030


Thats sums it all up in a nutshell, but it indeed is more complex then that.....

PATSFAN's photo
Mon 03/24/08 01:35 PM
Try " Mutual Match " it has changed my life.........bigsmile

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Mon 03/24/08 01:38 PM

My thoughts would be that THEY got what they WANTED!!!:angry:

Or they felt they didn't really like you after meeting you, and didn't have the balls to tell you that!

And the 2nd here would be a WIDE case of both men and women...

I will always tell them MY REASONING even if THEY see it as an insult or me looking in a bad way in their mind.:cry:


I find the worst insult is dishonesty

disenchantedangel's photo
Mon 03/24/08 01:40 PM

Guys like girls are not complicated at all once you study them and learn from observation. I love going to a bar with a friend when I was younger and she was single we went in and danced and had a blast. I would see a guy giving her the eye so went to the bathroom and came back 10 - 15 mins later and from afar was watching the whole scene unfold.

As soon as I left and was out of sight, they would make the move to her. she would never dance, just talk to them as soon as she got a drink I would come back and sit down and the guy would be like um uh I uh, I was like go ahead finish the conversation.... They would so leave.

If she really liked the guy I would introduce myself and say she likes you we are just friends go ahead and dance.....


Now if she saw a woman giving me the eye she do the same, leave and watch from afar.

The nonverbal signals we give off are so obvious to the trained eye. You must know it is not only hand signals, it involves the entire body, posture facial expressions, etc..

Like I said in a different post:

http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/92030


Thats sums it all up in a nutshell, but it indeed is more complex then that.....


That may be so, but I still feel that some of these men are players and like someone mentioned earlier, if they don't get what they want at the end of the date, they seem to play you for a fool!!
Its all about honesty

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Mon 03/24/08 01:48 PM
some guys are jerks its that easy

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Mon 03/24/08 03:27 PM

I don't understand the male species (well the ones I've met recently!)
Ok, I have had a few dates over the last couple of years and what I find difficult to understand is the men who, while on the date, tell me how nice I am, would like to get to know me, would like to go out with me again, and then never contact me!!!!!
I just can't understand their way of thinking, can anyone explain this strange ritual???????


We are men, don't lead us or we will follow, don't follow us or we will lead. Simple really. The few men you went out with, did you give a lot of information too? Did you let on that you were interested? If only one you answered yes too, then they are not worth the time in a day...if you answered yes to both, then the problem may be you gave so much information it overwhelmed them. Few men want to deal with another person's issues, even less are helpful in that extent.

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Mon 03/24/08 07:19 PM
How do you respond they say those things?