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Topic: Whats your opinion on marriage?
hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/24/08 09:54 PM
Have you gotten MORE mail since you stopped looking? Just curious - women have this undeniable need to try to get the things that they think they can't have. No, actually the emails stopped. But I do have some understanding about how women seem to want what they can’t have. Or at least what they aren’t supposed to have. I’ve been hit on by more married women than I care to recount. I’m talking in-person. And sometimes their husbands were just in the other room!!! I turned them all down. I’m not interested in having sex with someone else’s wife. Absolutely not. I don’t care if she’s the sexiest woman on earth. I truly have no desire to have sex with a woman knowing full well that that is all it is. Especially if she involved with another man. I don’t even care if he gives her permission. I’m still not interested. In fact, one guy even wanted me to have sex with his wife and I refused, he actually became quite irate about like as if I had insulted the woman. Hey, I’m sorry, but what do I look like a male prostitute? For me, sex is an extremely intimate rapport and not something I would even be interested in doing outside of a very emotionally intimate relationship. That’s just the way I am. I will have sex with a single woman though. I have no problem with sex outside of marriage. Although, even then I need there to be some emotional intimacy. My sexual desires and my emotional desires have always been deeply entwined. And we got all of that from, “women want what they can’t have” I think that sex without emotional intimacy is really nothing more than mutual masturbation. Sex is easy; the emotional intimacy is the tricky part. You really did give me a lot of information spinning off from one observation, but that is a good thing. It is not often that you can find a person who actually knows how to converse. Good talk is a series of segues from one idea to another, I think. And you are clearly a person with much to say.

Abracadabra Joined Thu 04/12/07 Posts: 17851	Mon 03/24/08 10:18 PM
I think that sex without emotional intimacy is really nothing more than mutual masturbation. Hey, don’t knock mutual masturbation. Even that can be deeply intimate with the right partner. It’s not the act, but the emotional connection that counts. But I do know what you meant.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/24/08 10:19 PM
I think that sex without emotional intimacy is really nothing more than mutual masturbation. Hey, don’t knock mutual masturbation. Even that can be deeply intimate with the right partner. It’s not the act, but the emotional connection that counts. But I do know what you meant.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/24/08 10:20 PM
It is not often a guy leaves me at a loss for words. Correction - never. Until now. Kudos to you, Abracadabra.

LITTLESQUAW7 Joined Tue 11/06/07 Posts: 76	Mon 03/24/08 10:43 PM Edited by LITTLESQUAW7 on Mon 03/24/08 10:43 PM
GETTING MARRIED AGAIN NO TKS THOUGHT I HAD RIGHT GUY, WE KNEW EACH OTHER ALONG TIME OUR FAMILIES WAS FRIENDS,WE WAS MARRIED 13 YRS HE BROKE ALL RULES AN REALLY TURNED ME OFF TO MARRIAGE, NOPE NEVER AGAIN. ooooppppss sry forgot caps was on

LITTLESQUAW7 Joined Tue 11/06/07 Posts: 76	Mon 03/24/08 10:50 PM
WHAT IS IT WITH PEOPLE ON JSH U TRY TO JOIN A CONVERSATION THEY ALL GO QUIET HELL I CAN GET SILENCE FROM TV JUST TURN REMOTE OFF.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/24/08 10:52 PM
squaw - there weren't many people posting on this thread to begin with..and then it kind of dwindled into a conversation between two of us..and I think the other guy went to bed..sorry

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 08:56 AM
WHAT IS IT WITH PEOPLE ON JSH U TRY TO JOIN A CONVERSATION THEY ALL GO QUIET HELL I CAN GET SILENCE FROM TV JUST TURN REMOTE OFF. Look at the time you posted your message it was late at night for some of us.I stay up till about 12 but it depends on what time zone your in. This message board moves kind of slow I dont think anyone was ignoreing you. most people might have been in bed already.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 09:00 AM
It is not often a guy leaves me at a loss for words. Now i know your weak spot ...sex talk.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 03/25/08 05:29 PM
It is not often a guy leaves me at a loss for words. Now i know your weak spot ...sex talk. only when it is done with a certain finesse.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 07:06 PM
only when it is done with a certain finesse. Some guys have it most dont.... but some how we all end up on here.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 03/25/08 09:52 PM
You are right - most don't. Most guys come across as kind of crude when they talk about such things. Believe me, that would not render me speechless! I would most likely have something to say. The post above, though- he just kinda snuck it past me.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 10:11 PM
he just kinda snuck it past me. sneak something past you ...could never happen ...you just had a visual you couldnt let go of.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 03/25/08 10:16 PM
OK - let me rephrase - I never saw it coming. He was pretty smooth.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 10:25 PM
OK - let me rephrase - I never saw it coming. He was pretty smooth. I see your a night person what do you do all day sleep? Dont those goats in your picture ever get tired of laying down? if the are like my dog they sleep all day and night.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 03/25/08 10:28 PM
OK - let me rephrase - I never saw it coming. He was pretty smooth. I see your a night person what do you do all day sleep? Dont those goats in your picture ever get tired of laying down? if the are like my dog they sleep all day and night. actually I work all day. I'm an international tax accountant. I wish I could sleep all day; but I have my regular job, my part time weekend job, and grad school. So this is my only free time to "socialize". I sleep from about 2am -6am.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 03/25/08 10:29 PM
your second question - yes, the goats do move around. They get out of the pen now every day and roam around my property pulling up bulbs. They ate my fedex yesterday. I need to fix the pen, but working 7 days a week - it's hard.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 10:31 PM
I need at least 7 hours sleep but Im retired so I could sleep all day if wanted . Have you ever heard the term burning the candle from both ends sounds like your life. you afraid to retire? It wont kill you Im proof of that.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Tue 03/25/08 10:34 PM
I have heard goats are good for keeping the grass under control. do you milk the goats?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 03/25/08 10:34 PM
I need at least 7 hours sleep but Im retired so I could sleep all day if wanted . Have you ever heard the term burning the candle from both ends sounds like your life. you afraid to retire? It wont kill you Im proof of that. I can't afford to retire. I am a single mom. My daughter isn't even out of high school yet. Retirement would kill me in the sense that we would no longer be able to live in a house, or eat food, etc. I have to get this child through college before I can even start to think about myself.