i'd never walk away from any relationship without first examining the situation and presenting a rational and thought out conversation about what i don't like.

if you choose to do this, you can't be as blunt as i would on most things. she's just your friend and you really have no say in what she does with her life. if she wants to pick the wrong kind of guy, that's her deal. maybe set her up with someone who has more class? maybe not, maybe she likes to be groped in public. maybe that's just her thing.

sounds like you've got a semi complicated situation going on. just plain walking away would be too cold in my opinion

don't you just hate it when you ask a question just wanting people to agree with you and tell you your right but they all call you out on your bluff?

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What I'm worried about is what she's doing to herself. She is like I was a long time ago, but I get the feeling that I'm her sexual deviance venting listening post. She had a shot at a great guy last year, but she chose to go screw around at the bars instead. She is not happy, but she can't stop. I think it must be an attention issue.

That which is 'degrading' to some people is just harmless fun to others.

Why do you think negatively of her fun?

Oh... we posted simultaneously... I see now...

She admits that she does'nt like being viewed as an object rather than a person. Maybe she's just humoring me when I tell her I'm not cool with it.

Yeah, even (or esp.?) if you are so close for so long and she knows you are judgemental about it, she may not tell you how she really feels.

Oh, and even if (if) your feelings are more brotherly than 'romantic', you can still be jealous of the attention she gives others.

Nice thread but crossword puzzle is more hot

It does sound likes she likes the attention. I guess just love her as a friend through it. Good friends are so rare that you don't want to say but so much. Not knowing her hard to tell if she'd be sensitive. You sound like a caring friend.