I think with this new piece of information, you seem extremely selfish.

I have told her that I would support her in any way in this situation . after she told me that their was bad news at the doctor office . she brought her son in And the doctor broke the news he had to have a replacement . I told right after I would be there in Any capcity she needs because I understand kids And what it must feel like to be in that situation.


But what my frustrations are coming from is that we were supposed to hang out the other night. Just casual. And she blew me off after making plans earlier in the day. I did'nt hear from her till late the next day. I just think thats rude. I would never blow anyone off like that I would make the call .

I think you need some empathy.

well thats why i posted here before i made any stupid mistakes. I really like this one.

I agree about the sounding selfish part.

It seems like all we're hearing is me me meeeeee... if you would've been up front about her son's heart surgery in the beginning, most of our answers might've been different.

You said yourself that it's barely been a month, and that she's a single mother with a kid with heart problems... and all you seem to be concerned about is that YOU aren't getting enough attention.

Perhaps you should reflect on this awhile before getting involved with anyone.

It's not about you. Why are you making it about you?
Talk to the woman. Not us. If you like her, suck it up. Try to put yourself in her position.

I had to look up empathy

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy


I think u ladies are correct I can admit i can be selfish and thats why i posted before I made any rash and stupid actions.

yea i had that to and my lasted 12 years and i had to break it off for the child.for i was so far in dept i would have had to work tell 90.and i have the bets paying job in the town.if woman try to change you from who you are when they first go with them.stick to your guns awlays be your self and true to your self.if they love you they love you for who you are.if they try to change me into another person.i next them.i dont have time for games.if i want a game player i will hire one and give her money and when i want her to come over agine i will hire her to come over and mess with my head agin.life is too short for games.live life and enjoy life.you never know when your number is up

Well thank you. That was refreshing response. I'm speechless.

Im man enough to see other people's point of view I'm not narrowminded. I figured I would ask u nice fine people for some advice. Now If i asked my guy friends . their response is alot different.

Fair enough. However, you still need to talk to her, first and foremost. She cannot read your mind anymore than you can read hers. In a relationship, regardless of the length of time or status, open, direct, and honest communication is not optional.

I wish you luck.

it is always good to ask.most pepole never ask.

Tell her the truth about how you feel. See what her response is. you should probably tell by her response what is actually going on

thats what I'm stumbled on what to say to her. I don't want to sound selfish at all so what should I say?

The truth. That you want to spend more time with her, that she makes you smile and you are happy when you are with her. That you want to try and understand and be as supportive as you can, and ask her how you can best do that.

hey thats pretty good. I like that. now that won't sound selfish right?

I don't think it would. If I heard it I would not take it as such. I'd think, well here is a guy that isn't going to give up and I might be able to count on.

I agree with lillith. Tell her what you're feeling, and be sure to listen when she tells you what she's feeling. Sounds like she doesn't really have time for a relationship anyway.

thats what i think she doesn't have time for one.

I don't know if I'd be thinking of it in those terms if I was in the same position. She has time. What ever time she is willing and able to give. Just as you have other things in your life too, that will take you away from her at times... Or at least you should.
Whether you feel she has enough time for you is not something I would lay in her lap. Given the circumstances? That is on you.