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I have been dating this guy for about two months. At this point, he is wanting to be a serious couple and I am not sure if I want to. There are some things about him that I dont like and there are some things that I do. I am just having a hard time figuring out if I should give the guy a chance or hang it up. Here is the good, the bad, and the ugly. Good: He is cute, has a stable job, funny, great in bed, very sweet, plays guitar, and likes my kids. Bad: Likes Nascar, doesnt do housework or laundry or cook, and can only talk about music, Nascar, and politics. Ugly: I cooked dinner for him one night at my place and he didnt bother to ask to help out. And after dinner, I asked him to help clean up, and all he did was put away leftovers and sat back down on the couch. Now, what I need from you, do I give him a chance, or hang it up. You know that old saying, "you cant teach an old dog new tricks" keeps going through my head.   Considering him a dog and listing what you consider his good and bad traits definatly isnt helpful You may have a flawed view of relationships
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if you feel that certain twinge in your heart it might be worth the go, but sit down and talk to him about what he won't do for you becaause, if he really loves you........ he will give the effort to be better for you and your needs....you are a tremendously special person, and very well worth it baby, i know this, if he is a chain breaker, he will do this for you, rather than loose you,....and i hope he makes the right choice, because, you are one of my very best friends, and what you have to offer him is very rare indeed, and could make him eternally happy. so if you need me to swat him to see what he's really got...say the word, baby      Oh baby........thanks so much.....you are a true friend in every sense.......
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I have been dating this guy for about two months. At this point, he is wanting to be a serious couple and I am not sure if I want to. There are some things about him that I dont like and there are some things that I do. I am just having a hard time figuring out if I should give the guy a chance or hang it up. Here is the good, the bad, and the ugly. Good: He is cute, has a stable job, funny, great in bed, very sweet, plays guitar, and likes my kids. Bad: Likes Nascar, doesnt do housework or laundry or cook, and can only talk about music, Nascar, and politics. Ugly: I cooked dinner for him one night at my place and he didnt bother to ask to help out. And after dinner, I asked him to help clean up, and all he did was put away leftovers and sat back down on the couch. Now, what I need from you, do I give him a chance, or hang it up. You know that old saying, "you cant teach an old dog new tricks" keeps going through my head. Considering him a dog and listing what you consider his good and bad traits definatly isnt helpful You may have a flawed view of relationships Thanks Mirror, but I have been in very successful relationships and I do know what it takes to make it work. I just dont think he does. |
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if he gets comfortable after your talk,, and sinks into his old ways.......have your jesse dump cat sh!t in his hair, from your cat-box, tell him also to go to hell, and ask him to get away from you, and go back under the lazy rock he came from.
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if he gets comfortable after your talk,, and sinks into his old ways.......have your jesse dump cat sh!t in his hair, from your cat-box, tell him also to go to hell, and ask him to get away from you, and go back under the lazy rock he came from. LMAO
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Edited by
darkowl1
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Tue 03/18/08 09:55 AM
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you can't waste your time with giving somebody chance after chance, he has to understand that right off, even an immortal like me gets bored with that......
funny.... an immortal worried about wasting time, go figure. 
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I think a little courtesy from him wouldn't hurt
Let him know how you feel If that does not work Dump his ass
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!!
Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! |
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Tue 03/18/08 10:35 AM
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.....ever catch your self bustin ass & bendin over backwards to please and nurture a relationship
....that's because you were really into it/him ....like the title of the book says maybe " He's just not into you "...and the author of the aforementioned book would tell you " Don't waste the pretty !" we can't make or train another person to have chemistry with us ...if it's there it's there if it's not it's not....no amount of stressin , hand ringin , frettin , or boo whooin  will change that, come on we've all been on both sides of the "me more, she/he more"... equation he sounds like a great guy for some one with a different set of expectations...I am always dismayed/amazed when I here/see these broads on wife swap who rattle on about women's responsibility to house ,kids and hubby...but they choose that life...some even love it (me/run screamin into the night)...but your share the load guy is else where don't torture either of you by thinkin you can change him , any more than you would become a NASCAR junkie for him...he's not a bad guy, just the wrong guy for you !...onward and upward honey ...!!! ~wicked~
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!! Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! A man doing dishes, vaccumming, dusting, and doing laundry does make me HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!!
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!! Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! A man doing dishes, vaccumming, dusting, and doing laundry does make me HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!! The only thing i cannot do is cooking
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Have you expressed your irritation with him? Or have you kept it inside hoping he'll figure it out? You need to be direct and let him know these behaviors are not working for you, and tell him what you need. Give him a chance to work on it...or see if he is even willing to do so. As Lilith said, his response will tell you a whole lot. Maybe, he has limited relationship experience.
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.....ever catch your self bustin ass & bendin over backwards to please and nurture a relationship ....that's because you were really into it/him ....like the title of the book says maybe " He's just not into you "...and the author of the aforementioned book would tell you " Don't waste the pretty !" we can't make or train another person to have chemistry with us ...if it's there it's there if it's not it's not....no amount of stressin , hand ringin , frettin , or boo whooin will change that, come on we've all been on both sides of the "me more, she/he more"... equation he sounds like a great guy for some one with a different set of expectations...I am always dismayed/amazed when I here/see these broads on wife swap who rattle on about women's responsibility to house ,kids and hubby...but they choose that life...some even love it (me/run screamin into the night)...but your share the load guy is else where don't torture either of you by thinkin you can change him , any more than you would become a NASCAR junkie for him...he's not a bad guy, just the wrong guy for you !...onward and upward honey ...!!! ~wicked~ You hit it right on the nose sweetie, Thanks
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!! Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! A man doing dishes, vaccumming, dusting, and doing laundry does make me HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!! The only thing i cannot do is cooking I can teach you grasshopper
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!! Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! A man doing dishes, vaccumming, dusting, and doing laundry does make me HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!!   |
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it sure does not hurt to help do the dishes or anything else. i have lived alone for 8 years and i know how much stuff you have to do. if you take the time to cook a meal for someone the least they can do is the dishes. as far as conversation there had to be more than nasscar and politics. politics suck and there is always an arguement. great sex is wonderful but it does slow down later. then what will you have. a man that sits on the couch and does nothing with you. tell him and dump his ass.
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!! Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! A man doing dishes, vaccumming, dusting, and doing laundry does make me HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!! The only thing i cannot do is cooking I can teach you grasshopper I'd love for you to be my master 
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tELL him that men doing dishes makes you hot!!! Just weigh the options of what you can live with and what you can't!!! A man doing dishes, vaccumming, dusting, and doing laundry does make me HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!! sure Gypsy 
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I have been dating this guy for about two months. At this point, he is wanting to be a serious couple and I am not sure if I want to. There are some things about him that I dont like and there are some things that I do. I am just having a hard time figuring out if I should give the guy a chance or hang it up. Here is the good, the bad, and the ugly. Good: He is cute, has a stable job, funny, great in bed, very sweet, plays guitar, and likes my kids. Bad: Likes Nascar, doesnt do housework or laundry or cook, and can only talk about music, Nascar, and politics. Ugly: I cooked dinner for him one night at my place and he didnt bother to ask to help out. And after dinner, I asked him to help clean up, and all he did was put away leftovers and sat back down on the couch. Now, what I need from you, do I give him a chance, or hang it up. You know that old saying, "you cant teach an old dog new tricks" keeps going through my head.  As a former trainer of canines or dogs I can attest to the fact that yes, you can teach old dogs new tricks Just as long as they dont open their eggs from the large end instead of the small end, everyone know you open it at the small end
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I have been dating this guy for about two months. At this point, he is wanting to be a serious couple and I am not sure if I want to. There are some things about him that I dont like and there are some things that I do. I am just having a hard time figuring out if I should give the guy a chance or hang it up. Here is the good, the bad, and the ugly. Good: He is cute, has a stable job, funny, great in bed, very sweet, plays guitar, and likes my kids. Bad: Likes Nascar, doesnt do housework or laundry or cook, and can only talk about music, Nascar, and politics. Ugly: I cooked dinner for him one night at my place and he didnt bother to ask to help out. And after dinner, I asked him to help clean up, and all he did was put away leftovers and sat back down on the couch. Now, what I need from you, do I give him a chance, or hang it up. You know that old saying, "you cant teach an old dog new tricks" keeps going through my head. Relationships take work and it includes accepting the other person for who they are as a person....So I ask you....have you sat down & listened to his music & shared some of your own....have you sat down to watch Nascar with him & asked him some questions about the sport....and did you walk over to the couch taking his hand & guiding him into the kitchen letting him know that you were going to do this together or suggest(or do together) that he make the next meal.... asking is one thing doing together is more meaningful....and tell me, Is this relationship about 'You'? cause it sounds like it to me.... yeah, many people are saying give up on the relationship...that tells me much about their character & indicates why they are not in a relationship...If you want it to work, then work it....and if you mean it, don't try to change him....but do let him know what's on your mind....cause sharing, and honesty, and communication are all part of the same package.... I wish you the best in making this work....& if it doesn't, then move on.... |
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