Ok this is a discussion topic on internet dating.
Many of you have found that special someone on here.
Some are seriousely looking, some are'nt.
Some are playing games.
Some are wanting friends.
Sure some of are even scared.
Can we share our opinion's on here with out fighting or insulting. Do we have advise or questions to offer each other?
Lets hear it...
Discussion open...

All I can say is be honest with yourself and others and take the site for what you make of it

maybe

i did find somone on a dating site but not this one. i am very interested in her and even drove 9 hours one way to take her to dinner. i am going to see her again and who knows how it will work out.

I agree 100%.

I fall into the seriously NOT looking category as I focus on my 2 kids a bit longer, BUT I really , really enjoy JSH and the whole concept of it.....
AND ??.. have made some MOST EXCELLENT friends here that I would probably NEVER met had I not been convinced to come over ...
Thanks for invite , and constant laughs EVERYDAY

I'm here cause I made some good friends and I'm addicted to the forums..With my career and the travel, I prefer to make friends...

As one of the members that joined looking for someone local and ended up with a guy far away....further than I ever thought I'd be okay with.

I'd say keep your mind open to an LDR. My SO reminds me when I get frustrated that missing each other is a gift, as we are lucky to have found in each other a person we care enough about to miss. We also know that our situation is temporary.

I stay because I adore the people in the forums here. I hope that my message of finding love in the threads will be read and heard by others, who might find love where they least expect it.

This is going shockingly well for me. I wouldn't know where to go if I couldn't do this online. I hate bars and clubs, and I don't have a lot of time to myself.
After a few false starts, I am seriously talking with someone now...

I tink we all want that special some one. We all can use friends. so if i met some friends i am happy!!!

My question on dating this way is this.
Perhaps it is related to trust issues and honesty.

How do you know when something is real?
How do you know when you are just talking to one person
on here and that they are'nt also talking to a billlion
more? What guide lines do you go by for this?
Perhaps trust is an issue here- just trusting in someone.
It is way too easy to be fake on line. When you want
something- do you just go for it or hesitate trying to be safe.
How do you know when its just being safe or being played with?
You feel in your heart you want something- but yet you are not
sure about it being real on both sides?

but that is in real life too not just the internet. I guess follow your heart

In this, you have to trust your instincts and really "ride the fence". You have to trust in the other person but not invest so much of yourself that you will be hurt if it does not work out. Expect the other person be available and provide you with information that is verifiable, should you need reassurance. If you suspect they are not being truthful, it usually is because they aren't. Communication and intuition are all you really have.

Trust your gut instint, for me trust is never given only earned...

Well I know I have met a lot of nice people on here and have been talking to one for several months now. I did get an email from one guy saying I wasn't being honest because I didn't have a real pic of myself. Gee I didn't even bother responding. How do you feel about that? How is that not being honest? I would like others opinions. I didn't say anywhere HEY LOOK AT MY LEGS It's pretty obvious that there Dorothy's.

Hmmm, Well, I'm seriously looking; as I'd love to marry again. Unfortunately for me, I hate distance (been there, done that) and here I am single. I'm far too affectionate and desire immensely being next to my honey whenever he needs me; as well as him by my side. It's quite difficult to do such when distance is a factor, on top of other factors of not being able to just pick up and travel when missing him/her or even to fulfill a more committed relationship. If that were the case, I don't think irad would be single Then again, maybe we're just meant to be marvelous friends.. who really knows
Regardless, distance doesn't work for everyone ; however, I'm still well aware of it's outstanding pro's.

Good luck to those of you who have and/or might find someone of distance..

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Be honest with yourself...it is what you make of it....but yet at the same time it's the others that are in question. Personally, I have had some real losers that I have met online. I am most honest with myself as I am with others that I meet. Again, it goes back to the "others"....if they aren't honest then it's a lose/lose situation before anything even has a chance to develope.

Right now I am here for friends, but yet at the same time there is a part of me that is still hoping for that "Mr. Right" to come along. In the meantime, I'll keep doing what I've been doing all along and that's to be friends with everyone I meet both online and in real life. You have to be a friend to yourself first before you can be a friend to someone else.

Wheather we have a real pick up or not is a personal matter
to our self I think. At sometime in talking to a person I
would probbley want to see what they look like. I would
ask them to send a pic. Blue boxes and critters have never
stopped me from talking to someone.

yea def obvious... a lot of people dont use their picture for many reasons. Maybe he was new at this? If i ask for a picture and they will not give one than i think they are fake and I have stopped emailing in the past.