I read over and over again about how people say they are shy and don't like to e-mail first or are afraid of rejection in general. Why join a dating site?

Can I ask why the shy ones are afraid of being rejected by someone they do not even know.... and not even in person?

I emailed my man first. And the rest is history. I am a little more reserved in person though.

I think I've proven that I'm not shy

but to answer your question...maybe it's something in their past. Low self esteem

I think it's easier to be braver online...but that's just what I think

i can be shy in some point but im not shy to email someone. as for rejection that what happens all the time and you have to face it

Amen Lilith... I don't get it. If I get rejected by someone I don't even know, it doesn't bother me. Their loss

I think they feel more comfortable trying to approach someone on the internet, were in life for some it's hard...

you got that right..Im not afraid to email!

Yeah at least you can log off and go on about your day, unlike if you were at a bar and got rejected, then having to keep looking at them and wanting to leave.

It might be because if the shy person sends and e-mail first; and gets nothing back; it's like "wow, they read the e-mail, looked at my profile; and I still got rejected"--not the best confidence booster.

Everybody is different; some people just don't want to be the one that breaks the ice.

Kitten~ right there with you. Except I'm not reserved in person really.

Yellow~ Nope. You speak your mind... which I like.



I agree is should be easier to be more bold with the Internet as a barrier. So why isn't it?

Where are the shy ones? Comes out, come out wherever you are!

lol that doesn't bother me either. I don't care if someone rejects me in a bar, I don't even know them. As long as I don't make a total azz out myself lol

they're hiding in a corner lol afraid to speak up

i thikn people that are really shy even on the net...have issues from their past...maybe a lot of rejection from parents or something. it's hard to say. dunno

See thats how I am more reserved. I have never made the moves in person.

I'm more shy in person and will not walk up to any woman and ask them out but that's just me. I mind my own business and do my own thing, I have enough worries. Surely I'd admit to being shy and won't say much if anything at all but if it's online it's much easier to break the ice because you can easier shut or close windows and it's not to bad with being rejected online vs face to face, but that's just my take.

Also I am shy online at times, I might take a look at some one profile I might like but never say much but hi and I don't get any where if I am having a alright day I might say more. But I never get any where so I have just givin up altogether on sending out emails to woman because they never hardy respond to me.

lol it's entirly based on how drunk I am and how cute he is

That is quite true. But normally if Im that drunk, i wont remember it anyway.

I used to be totally shy and timid... yes it's true I swear lol I slowly came out of it, realizing that life was passing me by and I needed to speak up and stand up for myself. Now I just speak my mind, everyone is entitled to my opinion

ahhhh the power of alcohol. I get alot braver when i drink..and i'm not shy as it is. I talk to everyone sober in real life. when I drink, you can't shut me up

what irritates me is someone that will stare at me all night long and never speak a word to me.