i'm 22. hard to admit,but i have never had a girlfriend. i don't have a
nightlife, i don't go to bars and clubs. so the only place that i might
find a potential girlfriend is the mall. but i'm shy and i don't know
how to approach women. i'm kinda tired of being alone. what should i do?

there isn't an easy way josehon. you just have to go up to a girl you
like and stumble through it the best you can and take what ever happens
in stride. don't worry if she says no because there isn't anything wrong
with it and you shouldn't be nervous about it. good luck

thanks king

if you like a girl you should just tell her cause you never know maybe
she likes you to and she is afraid to tell you how she feels good luck
josehon

yep just do it, go up to her and be yourself if she doesn't want to talk
to you then move on to the next, there are plenty of women at the malls
usually. Not every woman gonna want to talk to every man so don't take
rejection personal. I had a girl at work I have been wanting to ask out.
I got past the conversation phase by picking something about work that
she was doing at the time and went from there, If I had not asked her
out then I would not have the chance to really get to know her better.
You will either make a date or be right where you are now. Nothing to
lose but possibly everything to gain.

yep, M's right... good advice

go to a club dude.

Sorry Heather, I have to disagree. A Club is a Terrible place to meet a
chic for a quit guy since most are ratioed 4 - 1 guys to girls he will
be competing with too many dudes that are lining up for even the Ulgly
Chics...

Gotta agree with my friend, Sluggo. ( Although the aesthetically
challenged need love, too, Sluggo)lol

Jose, I know it sounds tacky, but try going to a library or the grocery
store. While you are waiting in line, strike up a conversation with
someone around you. I know you are shy, but self-confidence is the only
way you are going to find a girl.

OK got to tell you guys this and I know it is going to be hard for some
of you to believe but it is true :) I was really shy and am at times
when I meet some one for the first time but as time when on and i looked
at myself and sead what do i have to lose by asking some one out.
NOTHING but it was the fact that i have to belive what I said to myself
that it was nothing or I could not ask someone out with out feeling
rejected and each time I did it if you were to say it got better because
I was honest with myself and realize that it was not that big of a deal
if someone said no

I use to be a Bouncer at one of the most happening clubs out here in the
LA Area and it was just rediculous at times trying to talk to a chic
(between the loud music and the chic being hit on ever two minutes) no
thank you, the odds don't favor guys with any dignity

Be yourself, if they dont like ya, they aint worth it. Also, most women
like bein talked to like you're not tryin to get in their pants, just
talk to them like they're one of your buddies. If they think you're
interesting, they'll make the first move, if they think you'd be a good
friend, bonus. Most guys look at the friend thing and moan about it, but
girl-friends can always hook you up with their friends.


:)

i guess you got a point there sluggo.

I think that before you start dating, you need to go out and have some
fun, meet some friends, and then think about dating, so you wont get
your feelings hurt,,, I mean that is just what I think, and what I would
do...

thanks a lot people!!! i appreciate all your advices.

figure out who you are first then strive to be the best, be more sure of
yourself and put on a shirt shy guy,lol

I would suggest you look around your community. See if there is anything
there that you would like to help with. Boys n Girls clubs, volunteer at
the hospital, etc. There are lots of women and men who volunteer
places. You can find someone there that strikes your fancy, and have
something in common.

My Younger brother (who has passed away) was very shy. He used to
practice on me on what he wanted to say to a girl. I would help me with
what to say and how to say it. You may want to ask a friend for some
help.

Good luck
T

TRY TO DRESS COOL AND JUST TALK TO THEM. GIRLS ARE PERVS JUST LIKE US
GUYS. IN THE ADVICE OF MY FRIEND.....SANTHANA...ASK A CHICK "HOW DOES
THE PIE TAST LIKE?"

good lordy.... *smacks spay again*