i have a girlfriend who caught her live in boyfriend talking to his ex online and on the phone behind her back. she had a feeling he was and confronted him, he lied about it at first and finally told her yes he was but they were only friends, nothing more. he told her that he had told the ex about her and that he was living with her and in love with her. then she finds more emails that they are sending back and forth that appear a little more than friends. she confronts him again. he admits finally that he did not tell the ex he was living with her or about her at all. then he admits that this ex is writing the i love yous, i miss yous, i wanna make love to yous, etc....but he claims that he never really responded to it and blew it off but he never told her to stop saying it either. she has called me all day wanting to know what to do about it because she loves him, he claims he loves her, is willing to email the ex and tell her everything and to not bother him again, etc...in my opinion he went a little too far with this and plus he lied to my friend...should she forgive and give another chance or has the trust been broken? i dont know what to tell her.......my luck with relationships isnt exactly too good haha

you have to have trust. it's obvious he is a liar. maybe tell him to knock it off or she's gone. an ultimatum doesn't sound too bad right now even though i don't like doing them myself. if she can live and move on with him knowing all of this then stay...if not she needs to be happy

he went way too far
i had some thing like this happen to me and the only way to heal the hurt is to clean out the infected area(his lies)
if he's lied about it and keeps doing so then his words about mailing her and telling her whats up are not worth the waight in spit

Kick him in the JEWELS...at least that the advice my sister always gives...

not making excuses for him but maybe there is something bothering him. if he can be honest about it maybe they can work on it....but to me the feelings are the same as if he had sex with the ex

Im NOT a great relationship expert either,lol,lol

But he shouldn't have lied,...
And he should have done told his ex the truth,,,,,,UNLESS he was playing both or THINKING about seeing his ex...
Thats my take of what he was doing.
Now as to what she should do.
If HE really LOVED your friend,,,,HE would NOT be needing to lie or CHANGE anything he does or says..
If SHE your friend is just into the romance and no long term,,who cares, he's a playing kind of dude...
If she's wanting marrage then I would look some MORE!!!lol
Good luck to your friend...

NEXT!!!

I know it's easy to say to dump him but I have been there and it's not easy. sorry but it hurts and if she loves him, she may not see clearly. I wish it was easy

i agree with this but i also think that if he lied even after caught it's for a reason and most likely a shady one at that

why does the song Lips Of An Angel come to mind?.i thought women LOVED that song.....until it happens to them,right?

lIARS dont change their spots!!!

it's never ez and i even gave half a though to trying to stay with the guy that did it to me but it just wasn't the same no matter how much i loved him i resented him more for the lies

I think that most of us have been in that same situation at one time or another and all of us know that until your friend is ready to make her own decision there isn't much you can say or do. Just be there and support her in whatever decision she makes. Because if u sit there and bad mouth him and they end up stayin together then it will make your relationship strained. Just LISTEN and be her friend...

i agree...i couldn't stay because it would always be on my mind and i could never believe him. but yes it is hard to just walk away

1st he must stop all contact with the ex, & then they must work on the trust ....

The way i see it

You lie

You die

Any questions???

she loves him i know, or she wouldnt be so torn up about it. he tells her he loves her and has NOOOOOOO feelings for the ex. he says she is a sweet girl, but was no future with her. he lived with her in seattle, 2 years ago moved to ohio and they never really officially split up. then when he moved in with my girlfriend he officially broke it off with the ex (which was a few months ago). (this is his version) the ex isnt listening to him and he said he didnt want to hurt her anymore so he never got harsh with her to stop. but like i said, he also let her go on, leading her on, and no one knows what he really said to her. she emailed the ex and the ex of course sent it to him and he told hte ex to ignor it. so that doesnt look good either. now he is begging my friend to forgive, he wants to be with her, will do anything to make it better, will quit talking to the ex but doesnt want to because he really likes her as a friend, but will to make it work, will send ex an email telling her the truth, etc....but still how do you know it will stop? i have huge trust issues so i am no help to her, but i intend to pass this advice on to her from you guys.

hi ya romeo

I couldn't trust him again but i know it's hard. if she thinks she can forgive (not forget though) then try it if she thinks it's worth it. if she can't let it go and try again then there is no chance. it has to be up to her.

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