Topic: I've figured it out
yellowrose10's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:16 AM
ok..I'll admit the one thing I have noticed about the last past relationships...

the one thing in common is drugs were involved somehow.

1. got back into drugs
2. thinks he owes the world for his past screw ups with drugs
3. (ex fiance) had a childhood with parents in drugs and had some problems in the past and his siter is into them now

It's not the past drug use....it's the mentality that they haven't changed.

lily38's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:25 AM
In my opinion, it sounds as though you keep choosing the same types of dysfunctional relationships......You can't change them or their behavior; you can only change yours....

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:26 AM
i don't think it's dysfunctional at the time. i guess because i know mine's not the best either but i'm normal...kind of

DestinysDream's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:28 AM
Epiphony!

Interesting. I saw this Superior Court Judge Grey out here for a talk about drugs. He believes we need to legalize all drugs immediately. The drug war is unwinnable and the people who are getting drugs are the kids. The money is going to drug dealers. He draws parallels to drugs and tobacco/prescription meds/liquor which is all regulated.

Over 50 percent of the people in jail are there due to drugs. That disgusts me. The people making prisons and staffing them and the tobacco companies are the ones against legalization. Sorry, just got another cup of coffee here....

lily38's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:29 AM
It's normal to get stuck in these dysfunctional ruts. I've definitely been there.......

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:30 AM
i believe people can change and deserve a chance but i find the ones that don't want to learn

lily38's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:32 AM
The problem is these dysfunctional people are expert gameplayers, and we allow ourselves to become vulnerable to their games.

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:34 AM

The problem is these dysfunctional people are expert gameplayers, and we allow ourselves to become vulnerable to their games.


true... but I know my life hasn't been normal but the last thing I would do is play someone or care less about their feelings. so I know if I can do it...there are others that are like me

lily38's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:36 AM
There are functional people out there. Finding them is the problem....

DestinysDream's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:37 AM
Next time carry a piss test and get it out of the way early in the relationship. laugh

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:37 AM
I got the answer. I'm checking out Americas most wanted for my next guy....then i will KNOW what he has done laugh

Jess642's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:37 AM
bigsmile I am.



Hi Lily flowerforyou

TheShadow's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:40 AM

I got the answer. I'm checking out Americas most wanted for my next guy....then i will KNOW what he has done laugh


laugh don't be suprised

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 03/12/08 02:41 AM


I got the answer. I'm checking out Americas most wanted for my next guy....then i will KNOW what he has done laugh


laugh don't be suprised


hey the extra bonus would be if there is a rewardlaugh

no photo
Wed 03/12/08 05:10 AM
Yellow Rose...

You are witty ....charming....beautiful.....
and at the right time, a great guy will jump at a chance to know you....and that right guy will come along ....at the right time, however.

In the meantime, allow yourself more time to heal... cause in that healing time, you will grow and learn from the past.

Taking that time to learn and grow from your past is important, because it will truly prepare you for Mr Right, when he does comes along.

And He will come along...all in good time....you will see...flowerforyou

Be Encouraged Now, YellowRose.....

unsure's photo
Wed 03/12/08 05:12 AM

i believe people can change and deserve a chance but i find the ones that don't want to learn

Maybe you should stop giving them a second chance! Sometimes they don't want to change and they enjoy living that kind of lifestyle! The only person you can change is yourself...Good luck flowerforyou

hunter870's photo
Wed 03/12/08 05:19 AM
Hi all,Hay Yellow Rose look and see if I'm on that list:wink: laugh devil I will split the reward with you if I am:wink: laugh drinker Smile young lady and have a great day Alldrinker