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Topic: are you allowed..................
debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 03/10/08 07:20 PM
I put my granson on here. No one is going to find him at my house. Without a shotgun in their nose. Kat but to me, just the thought that someone might look at him that way is sickening, thats why i wont put a picture of my neice on here. What would cause you to have such a thought anyway? (Anyway, this is a dating site, there is no reason to post family pictures.) If you have a friend you want to share pictures with it is easy enough to send them. This site is working on adding the ability to send pics with a message. You worry too much. Besides, there is enough porn on the Internet to satisfy the sickest of people, so you should not fret over such things. Do you have kids??? Worry is worry. It is a negative affirmation. If you think for one second posting a picture of your child on this site or any other is dangerous then just don't do it. Its that simple. To dwell on such thoughts and even post them, is writing and visualizing a negative affirmation. ..and more worry. You can argue that worry is "normal" but it is not. It is common. You take caution and preventative measures if you are worried and then forget about it, that is all I am saying. Worry will cause you to stress and grow old fast. I know now that you do not have children, as a mother, I worry CONSTANTLY about her health and well being... There is hardly a second in the day or night, i don't think about something that has to do with her proper upbringing.... schooling, safety, nutrition, health, proper advancement in learning, saving for her college, making sure she is taught proper morals and values... Do I worry....ALL THE TIME..... That was the roll I took as a mother... lils your a great mother, i wish ALL mothers were like you.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 03/10/08 07:20 PM
we need more people in this world like lils. Oh gawd, don't say that too loud darlin'.... many beg to differ with you.....

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Mon 03/10/08 07:22 PM
I know now that you do not have children, as a mother, I worry CONSTANTLY about her health and well being... There is hardly a second in the day or night, i don't think about something that has to do with her proper upbringing.... schooling, safety, nutrition, health, proper advancement in learning, saving for her college, making sure she is taught proper morals and values... Do I worry....ALL THE TIME..... That was the roll I took as a mother... if you're anything like me, you worry only about the things that you can personally affect, or that personally affect your little ones. i don't shed thought on meteors falling out of the sky or the roof falling down. i'm not concerned with wild animals attacking, or tornadoes cutting us down. i'm not concerned with what a sicko might do with my kids' pics, because that will never actually affect my babies. i take no responsibility for the actions of a nutcase. the chance that you could FIND my kids from my pics...well, good luck.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 03/10/08 07:27 PM
I know now that you do not have children, as a mother, I worry CONSTANTLY about her health and well being... There is hardly a second in the day or night, i don't think about something that has to do with her proper upbringing.... schooling, safety, nutrition, health, proper advancement in learning, saving for her college, making sure she is taught proper morals and values... Do I worry....ALL THE TIME..... That was the roll I took as a mother... if you're anything like me, you worry only about the things that you can personally affect, or that personally affect your little ones. i don't shed thought on meteors falling out of the sky or the roof falling down. i'm not concerned with wild animals attacking, or tornadoes cutting us down. i'm not concerned with what a sicko might do with my kids' pics, because that will never actually affect my babies. i take no responsibility for the actions of a nutcase. the chance that you could FIND my kids from my pics...well, good luck. and that was kinda my point, it's not that it makes you a bad mother if you do or don't post them, but you are aware of the possibilities.... No, I don't worry about things I can't help either, I'm over protective in some reguards, but not in others.... that's my right as her mother, she is the only child I will ever have, and I went threw H*LL to have her.... I'm not going to F it up now by not worring about the stuff that I can help..... I do worry a bit about the tomato thing tho.... but that's just the voices in my head.... I try to tune them out... but.... well... you know.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Mon 03/10/08 07:28 PM
i DONT think lili is being negative. shes just looking out for the safety of her children. we need more people in this world like lils.flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou Yes a mother worries. I will give you that. But if she does not post any pictures of her children then she has nothing to worry about. Okay? It is very simple. It still seems strange to me to be picturing bad or creepy things that may never happen. Dark imaginings wrought with worry will wear you down emotionally. Like I said. Just don't post the pictures. It is common sense. But for you to judge anyone as a bad mother because they don't worry and fret over everything imagined thing is being judgmental. Worry is fear based. If you had more faith and if you take appropriate action or caution, you will not be so prone to worry about imagined things.

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Mon 03/10/08 07:31 PM
I do worry a bit about the tomato thing tho... curiosity is freaking killing me...

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 03/10/08 07:32 PM
we need more people in this world like lils. Oh gawd, don't say that too loud darlin'.... many beg to differ with you..... they wouldnt sweetie. seriously i wish all mothers were like you, then some things may not happen., all down to the mom looking out for her daughters safety

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 03/10/08 07:33 PM
i DONT think lili is being negative. shes just looking out for the safety of her children. we need more people in this world like lils.flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou Yes a mother worries. I will give you that. But if she does not post any pictures of her children then she has nothing to worry about. Okay? It is very simple. It still seems strange to me to be picturing bad or creepy things that may never happen. Dark imaginings wrought with worry will wear you down emotionally. Like I said. Just don't post the pictures. It is common sense. But for you to judge anyone as a bad mother because they don't worry and fret over everything imagined thing is being judgmental. Worry is fear based. If you had more faith and if you take appropriate action or caution, you will not be so prone to worry about imagined things. I am pretty sure that is all that anyone was saying, take the precautions to not have it happen... I see from your pic, the religion that you follow.... you know as well as I do that everything is in your power, thought creates reality, and yes, you can say that if you worry about it, that it will bring it to fruition, but not worring about it, to whatever extent can be just as bad. I personally don't care what anyone else does with pics of their children, and I certainly do not judge them from something as simple as posting them or not, I however choose to post them only for friends and family to see... That is simply my choice.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 03/10/08 07:34 PM
I do worry a bit about the tomato thing tho... curiosity is freaking killing me... I was kidding...

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Mon 03/10/08 07:35 PM
to post pictures of children??? on another site, they wouldnt let you post pictures of children. i think maybe because theres sick people out there, that could possibly look at your childs picture for other reasons than you would like. i love my neice to bits, but i wont put her picture on here, because its possible a sick man will look at it, and do things while looking at that photo. makes me sick to think about it. whats your opinion?? and does the site say were allowed to use pictures of children??? like i said the site i went on before, they wouldnt let you post pictures of children. You are allowed., but honestly I would be cautious. You know it's so easy for a pedophile to do his homework. Especially if you mention their names in threads or emails or whatever. They see what city you live in .. yada yada It sounds horrible and it is. But it's also reality. I only put my boys pics on here. They could kick any one's butt that messed around. My girls have specifically asked not to be on line in my pics. So they aren't.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 03/10/08 07:40 PM
when i was in hospital, there was a young man in there to.he would cut out photos of children from the newspapers, and put them in is bedroom. he was masturbating looking at the childs picture he cut out the newspaper. EXACTLY the same could happen HERE. just the thought of a man looking at my neice, and touching himself, makes me sick to me its not worth the risk and the constant worry

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Mon 03/10/08 07:40 PM
i just don't see it that way... i live in a town of 60,000 people...i'm not listed in the phone book... first, you'd have to find me. good luck. and that's if i'm even being honest about what town i live in, let alone the state... a pedophile is MUCH more likely to go after the little kid that's close to them, rather than go cross-country after a kid they will probably NEVER find. i'm much more concerned about my neighbor than anyone on here.

Morena350 Joined Sat 09/30/06 Posts: 13611	Mon 03/10/08 07:42 PM
I think most of us are safe on here, but you could make it a private pic, so only your friends could see true that!!

sexi_PHAT Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 1301	Mon 03/10/08 07:43 PM Edited by sexi_PHAT on Mon 03/10/08 07:45 PM
to post pictures of children??? on another site, they wouldnt let you post pictures of children. i think maybe because theres sick people out there, that could possibly look at your childs picture for other reasons than you would like. i love my neice to bits, but i wont put her picture on here, because its possible a sick man will look at it, and do things while looking at that photo. makes me sick to think about it. whats your opinion?? and does the site say were allowed to use pictures of children??? like i said the site i went on before, they wouldnt let you post pictures of children. i personally wont post pics of mine here...just dont need to or want to

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 03/10/08 07:44 PM
i DONT think lili is being negative. shes just looking out for the safety of her children. we need more people in this world like lils.flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou Yes a mother worries. I will give you that. But if she does not post any pictures of her children then she has nothing to worry about. Okay? It is very simple. It still seems strange to me to be picturing bad or creepy things that may never happen. Dark imaginings wrought with worry will wear you down emotionally. Like I said. Just don't post the pictures. It is common sense. But for you to judge anyone as a bad mother because they don't worry and fret over everything imagined thing is being judgmental. Worry is fear based. If you had more faith and if you take appropriate action or caution, you will not be so prone to worry about imagined things. I HAVNT called anyone a BAD mother, so dont tell me i have the reason i thought about this is because i was thinking the other day about when i was in hospital.......................................................................................read my post there, and thats why i thought of this,

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Mon 03/10/08 07:52 PM
i dont think she has, any decent mother would do everything to keep there child safe, like you are lils. she cant be a mother saying those things, or if she is a mother, im shocked The above implies that any "decent mother" would do everything to keep their child safe...etc. then you make the assumption that I can't be a mother saying those things... and that you are shocked. I don't know how else I can interpret that remark. You imply (indirectly) that either I am "not a mother" and if I were I would be doing exactly as your are doing, because if I am a mother, you are shocked. jb

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 03/10/08 08:04 PM
i dont think she has, any decent mother would do everything to keep there child safe, like you are lils. she cant be a mother saying those things, or if she is a mother, im shocked The above implies that any "decent mother" would do everything to keep their child safe...etc. then you make the assumption that I can't be a mother saying those things... and that you are shocked. I don't know how else I can interpret that remark. You imply (indirectly) that either I am "not a mother" and if I were I would be doing exactly as your are doing, because if I am a mother, you are shocked. jb i stand by what i said. a descent mother like lili, will do everything to protect there child, thats how we knew you didnt have any children, because you wouldnt be saying things like that and i didnt say YOU were bad, im saying any decent mother would do what lils said. when i said a descent mother, i was talking in general, not specifically at you!!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 03/10/08 08:07 PM
if i was specifically talking to you, i would have wrote your name down, when i posted so you knew the message was for you. i didnt do that because i wasnt only talking to you.

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Mon 03/10/08 08:30 PM
i stand by what i said. a descent mother like lili, will do everything to protect there child, thats how we knew you didnt have any children, because you wouldnt be saying things like that and i didnt say YOU were bad, im saying any decent mother would do what lils said. when i said a descent mother, i was talking in general, not specifically at you!!! eh, i see kind of what she's saying...cause i could care less how many perverts are doing whatever with my kids' pics. i mean, really...how does that affect us? rather they jack to a pic than go out and actually molest someone... but that's just me. i'm a realist.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Mon 03/10/08 08:34 PM
if i was specifically talking to you, i would have wrote your name down, when i posted so you knew the message was for you. i didnt do that because i wasnt only talking to you. I am not that naive. Everybody knows who you were talking about and what you meant to imply. Don't insult my intelligence by playing so innocent. Worry all you want about anything you want, I was only trying to help. Forget it.