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Topic: Don't throw eggs, I'm gonna play Peccy for a sec.....
Jill298's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:27 AM

one day, i'll learn that prison time isn't sexy. one day...

until then, i'm staying single.

my ex-husband spent a year and a half in prison...for breaking down a door with a shotgun and pulling his then-wife out of the neighbor's house by her hair. all mister tarzan and stuff...
tarzan used shotguns?

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:28 AM
What if he is actually doing something with his life, going to school, not doing drugs, not even drinking......

uk1971's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:29 AM
Edited by uk1971 on Mon 03/10/08 10:31 AM
There was a case here last year when one of the members met someone and was very serious about him, UNTIL she found out that he was on the sex offenders register.

Result - Reported and dumped him.
His account was deactived. (Either by him or the admin here)

If you aren't sure. Try doing a background check on the person you are talking to before it gets too serious.
Most of us are here for genuine reasons, but you can never be certain.

flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou drinker drinker drinker

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:34 AM




smokin Peccy told me about his violent criminal record smokin


I didn't mean to say that he had a record.... I just meant that in that line of question I was acting like him... do you really want to start a world war between Peccy and I... we do a good enough job all by ourselves...grumble
flowerforyou Its cool Lilyflowerforyou I know that you did time in prison:wink:


No it was only a movie I did, and it was just that one time in college when I needed money.....embarassed
flowerforyou I think I own that one.flowerforyou Nice bukaki scenelaugh

PATSFAN's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:38 AM
As long as he is slim, handsome & has a big dong who cares!!laugh laugh ( Joking)laugh laugh laugh

uk1971's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:53 AM

As long as he is slim, handsome & has a big dong who cares!!laugh laugh ( Joking)laugh laugh laugh


<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile :tongue:

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 03/10/08 10:58 AM
*Throws eggs* Boo!

Nah j/k.laugh

As long as someone is upfront and honest about it I wouldn't have a problem with it, I've dated a felon before but it wasn't a violent crime but it wouldn't be any different if it were as long as they were honest with me.

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:18 AM





smokin Peccy told me about his violent criminal record smokin


I didn't mean to say that he had a record.... I just meant that in that line of question I was acting like him... do you really want to start a world war between Peccy and I... we do a good enough job all by ourselves...grumble
flowerforyou Its cool Lilyflowerforyou I know that you did time in prison:wink:


No it was only a movie I did, and it was just that one time in college when I needed money.....embarassed
flowerforyou I think I own that one.flowerforyou Nice bukaki scenelaugh


no you didn't you jerk.... but ya, it was pretty good huh??:wink: It was my theatrical claim to fame....

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:20 AM

As long as he is slim, handsome & has a big dong who cares!!laugh laugh ( Joking)laugh laugh laugh


Well since you put it that way.......

OrangeCat's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:26 AM
indifferent

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Mon 03/10/08 11:32 AM
Interesting subject.

One that I can see from a variety of angles.

When I was younger.. I believed that people could not change. So I do understand that point of view.

Then life happened to me.

I was no angel. Granted, I have not served time or been convicted of any felonious activity, but to pretend I have lead an innocent life? That would be giving a false impression of who and what I am.

I'd be no better, no different then any jerk here, claiming that he is and always has been one of the last genuine nice guys.

I have been violent at times. Whether it was justified or not, depends on how you look at it. My telling you it was, in this context.. is pretty much a waste of time and energy.

Would I make the same choices now? No, probably not. I have a few more tools I did not have earlier in life.
To say that I am above violence now? Again..that would lead you to an unrealistic image of me.

Have I ever hit a woman? That is a rather tricky question that goes back to age 12. The one and only time. There was a girl in my class who had 4 older brothers. She outclassed many of the boys, as far as being a fighter and bully. I became her target when my family pulled into town. After several instances.. coming home with a few bruises and discussing it with my Mom. I had enough. The girl confronted me one day, and I left her in a hallway splayed out like a side of beef. Then went and told my teacher what had happened. She got suspended. I carried on with my day and she never bothered me or anyone I called friend again.

Today? I have some friends here that have served time for a variety of crimes. Some were terroristic and violent in nature. They changed. Just as I have changed. I judge them and how they participate in my life, based on their behavior today, as they do with me. These friends are welcome in my home. Some know how to get in here even when I am not home. I trust them to be honorable around my family and friends as they do with me.

So...based on this information. You figure out where I stand...

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:45 AM

Interesting subject.

One that I can see from a variety of angles.

When I was younger.. I believed that people could not change. So I do understand that point of view.

Then life happened to me.

I was no angel. Granted, I have not served time or been convicted of any felonious activity, but to pretend I have lead an innocent life? That would be giving a false impression of who and what I am.

I'd be no better, no different then any jerk here, claiming that he is and always has been one of the last genuine nice guys.

I have been violent at times. Whether it was justified or not, depends on how you look at it. My telling you it was, in this context.. is pretty much a waste of time and energy.

Would I make the same choices now? No, probably not. I have a few more tools I did not have earlier in life.
To say that I am above violence now? Again..that would lead you to an unrealistic image of me.

Have I ever hit a woman? That is a rather tricky question that goes back to age 12. The one and only time. There was a girl in my class who had 4 older brothers. She outclassed many of the boys, as far as being a fighter and bully. I became her target when my family pulled into town. After several instances.. coming home with a few bruises and discussing it with my Mom. I had enough. The girl confronted me one day, and I left her in a hallway splayed out like a side of beef. Then went and told my teacher what had happened. She got suspended. I carried on with my day and she never bothered me or anyone I called friend again.

Today? I have some friends here that have served time for a variety of crimes. Some were terroristic and violent in nature. They changed. Just as I have changed. I judge them and how they participate in my life, based on their behavior today, as they do with me. These friends are welcome in my home. Some know how to get in here even when I am not home. I trust them to be honorable around my family and friends as they do with me.

So...based on this information. You figure out where I stand...

:wink:

PATSFAN's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:49 AM
I'm handsome:smile:

lilith401's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:51 AM
Hey Jistme... want to beat up the guy I'm referring to??? :wink:

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:52 AM
Attempted murder, rape, those kind of things...

Id run! Real fast and as far away as I could!

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/10/08 11:53 AM

I'm handsome:smile:


that you are....:wink:

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Mon 03/10/08 12:29 PM

Hey Jistme... want to beat up the guy I'm referring to??? :wink:

On some twisted level..That might be satisfying for a minute, then empty.
Nope... Not really. If cornered by a violent person.. I can meet them with a necessary level of violence. I'm betting he would not have the stomach for it.
Bullies, in their very nature whether they are passive or physical, are cowardly creatures. They show their weaknesses in their every action.
There are many other ways to emasculate them, reduce them to a harmless puddle of crap, that are much more lasting then a beating.

Attempted murder, rape, those kind of things...

One of my very best friends (God rest his soul) was convicted of murder. There is no question about his guilt either. It may not make up for the life he took, but after he did his time... He devoted his life to saving others. He chose to not act in fear. To make better choices and to help others make better choices.

If I had decided to run from him? I might very well not be here writing this.

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Mon 03/10/08 12:30 PM

What would you do if you found out someone you were talking to was a felon.. a violent one...

vs.

what if the person were upfront and told you right away?


I dont think i could be with anyone like that no matter whatnoway noway ..got 2 kids to think aboutflowerforyou

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/10/08 01:02 PM
I am a believer that people can change, however I do have a daughter to worry about....

If it were just me, it wouldn't be so bad, but I do have to worry about her and if something happened to me... what would she be left with....

I'm not despirate for attention, and I'm in no hurry to "find" someone, so who knows....

catchme_ifucan's photo
Mon 03/10/08 05:13 PM
As they say, You can't judge a book by it's cover...

Or (Jacket that's hung on it)

If he is being open & honest about it then that in it's self is a good sign.

Let your gut feeling about a person guide you.
Not your what you hear or by lust or want to believe.

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