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Topic: How do you tell if a guy you met online really likes you.
hikerchick's photo
Sat 03/08/08 10:17 PM




well is he calling u... asking u 2 do things 2gether... how long have u been "chatting" with this person

We've been chatting for about 3 weeks now, and I know that that doesn't seem like a long time, but we talk for 3 hours during the day, and usually from 11p.m. to 4a.m. Everyday. We have so much in common, it's freaky. I'm serious, I'm not making this up. We've told each other things that no one else knows about. (we never told anyone else) and I have never felt this way about anyone before. I dont want to rush things, so I'm trying not to talk to him about serious stuff, but sometimes it comes up anyways. He tells me he likes me a lot, but I've been in relationships before where they say that, but only want in your pants, so it's hard to trust. Please help.


try not letting him into your pants and see if he comes back


Yeah, I know, but man, if you saw this guy, you would understand how hard that's going to be. lol.laugh laugh Plus, after he goes back, we dont know how long it'll be til he can visit again. It's a lot of money, you know? I live in AZ, and he lives near MI


I would not recommend having sex with someone you have known for three weeks. That is just setting yourself up for diaster, no matter what he looks like. You have no obligation to make sure he gets his money's worth. Any guy who expects you to spread 'em that quickly is not a very nice guy.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:18 PM
How do I stop myself from having sex with him? I know the answer may be obvious, but I have no self control!! I really like him, and I dont want to screw it up by giving out too easy/fast. But I also dont want him to think I dont like him. How do I tell him why I dont want to have sex with him?

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Sat 03/08/08 10:18 PM




well is he calling u... asking u 2 do things 2gether... how long have u been "chatting" with this person

We've been chatting for about 3 weeks now, and I know that that doesn't seem like a long time, but we talk for 3 hours during the day, and usually from 11p.m. to 4a.m. Everyday. We have so much in common, it's freaky. I'm serious, I'm not making this up. We've told each other things that no one else knows about. (we never told anyone else) and I have never felt this way about anyone before. I dont want to rush things, so I'm trying not to talk to him about serious stuff, but sometimes it comes up anyways. He tells me he likes me a lot, but I've been in relationships before where they say that, but only want in your pants, so it's hard to trust. Please help.


try not letting him into your pants and see if he comes back


Yeah, I know, but man, if you saw this guy, you would understand how hard that's going to be. lol.laugh laugh Plus, after he goes back, we dont know how long it'll be til he can visit again. It's a lot of money, you know? I live in AZ, and he lives near MI


Enjoy the time you spend together and dont think about anything else.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:19 PM
Edited by jessicapickle on Sat 03/08/08 10:19 PM
LOL! Your right. I agree, but it's not like he's coming tomorrow, it'll be a while. lol.

*That was to hikerchick

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Sat 03/08/08 10:19 PM
It's entirely possible that it could work out, but be careful. Try not to get too wrapped up right away or it could wind up taking a long time to get over, regardless of it being an internet thing. Surprisingly this can happen pretty easily. I've seen my sister do it over and over again, just to find out that it was all to no avail. But good luck!

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Sat 03/08/08 10:20 PM

It's entirely possible that it could work out, but be careful. Try not to get too wrapped up right away or it could wind up taking a long time to get over, regardless of it being an internet thing. Surprisingly this can happen pretty easily. I've seen my sister do it over and over again, just to find out that it was all to no avail. But good luck!


Thank you. Was it long distance?

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Sat 03/08/08 10:24 PM

How do I stop myself from having sex with him? I know the answer may be obvious, but I have no self control!! I really like him, and I dont want to screw it up by giving out too easy/fast. But I also dont want him to think I dont like him. How do I tell him why I dont want to have sex with him?


?? I don't have sex with anyone I don't want to have sex with. I am not sure I understand. Just respect yourself and him and see what kind of relationship develops. Unless you are looking for a quick fling, which is fine if that is what you want. I see nothing wrong with that either. But know what it is that you are really looking for. If it is something more long term, I would wait on the physical.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:26 PM


How do I stop myself from having sex with him? I know the answer may be obvious, but I have no self control!! I really like him, and I dont want to screw it up by giving out too easy/fast. But I also dont want him to think I dont like him. How do I tell him why I dont want to have sex with him?


?? I don't have sex with anyone I don't want to have sex with. I am not sure I understand. Just respect yourself and him and see what kind of relationship develops. Unless you are looking for a quick fling, which is fine if that is what you want. I see nothing wrong with that either. But know what it is that you are really looking for. If it is something more long term, I would wait on the physical.


But you have to understand, I do want to have sex with him, but I know it'd be best if I didnt, so that our relationship could go further than f*ck buddies. But Ihave no will power. He could touch my arm, and I'll be all over him. lol.laugh laugh

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Sat 03/08/08 10:26 PM
bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile long distance is a difficult thing 1 If you can't control yourself to say no and mean it maybe you should reconsider the whole thing ! theres more to life than sex and you had better find out what he's about before giveing him the prize !

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Sat 03/08/08 10:27 PM



How do I stop myself from having sex with him? I know the answer may be obvious, but I have no self control!! I really like him, and I dont want to screw it up by giving out too easy/fast. But I also dont want him to think I dont like him. How do I tell him why I dont want to have sex with him?


?? I don't have sex with anyone I don't want to have sex with. I am not sure I understand. Just respect yourself and him and see what kind of relationship develops. Unless you are looking for a quick fling, which is fine if that is what you want. I see nothing wrong with that either. But know what it is that you are really looking for. If it is something more long term, I would wait on the physical.


But you have to understand, I do want to have sex with him, but I know it'd be best if I didnt, so that our relationship could go further than f*ck buddies. But Ihave no will power. He could touch my arm, and I'll be all over him. lol.laugh laugh


oh,girl, then you better hope it's your time of the month when you meet him.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:28 PM


It's entirely possible that it could work out, but be careful. Try not to get too wrapped up right away or it could wind up taking a long time to get over, regardless of it being an internet thing. Surprisingly this can happen pretty easily. I've seen my sister do it over and over again, just to find out that it was all to no avail. But good luck!


Thank you. Was it long distance?


Yeah. A few of them were long distance, and a few were local.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:31 PM


well is he calling u... asking u 2 do things 2gether... how long have u been "chatting" with this person

We've been chatting for about 3 weeks now, and I know that that doesn't seem like a long time, but we talk for 3 hours during the day, and then the same day we usually talk from 11p.m. to 4a.m. Everyday. We have so much in common, it's freaky. I'm serious, I'm not making this up. We've told each other things that no one else knows about. (we never told anyone else) and I have never felt this way about anyone before. I dont want to rush things, so I'm trying not to talk to him about serious stuff, but sometimes it comes up anyways. He tells me he likes me a lot, but I've been in relationships before where they say that, but only want in your pants, so it's hard to trust. Please help.


And if he's on here, you don't think he's going to read this???

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Sat 03/08/08 10:32 PM




How do I stop myself from having sex with him? I know the answer may be obvious, but I have no self control!! I really like him, and I dont want to screw it up by giving out too easy/fast. But I also dont want him to think I dont like him. How do I tell him why I dont want to have sex with him?


?? I don't have sex with anyone I don't want to have sex with. I am not sure I understand. Just respect yourself and him and see what kind of relationship develops. Unless you are looking for a quick fling, which is fine if that is what you want. I see nothing wrong with that either. But know what it is that you are really looking for. If it is something more long term, I would wait on the physical.


But you have to understand, I do want to have sex with him, but I know it'd be best if I didnt, so that our relationship could go further than f*ck buddies. But Ihave no will power. He could touch my arm, and I'll be all over him. lol.laugh laugh


oh,girl, then you better hope it's your time of the month when you meet him.


laugh laugh laugh laugh Now that's some good advice. LOL. But one question. What CAN I do to ensure his happiness. Nixing anything sexual.

hikerchick's photo
Sat 03/08/08 10:33 PM





How do I stop myself from having sex with him? I know the answer may be obvious, but I have no self control!! I really like him, and I dont want to screw it up by giving out too easy/fast. But I also dont want him to think I dont like him. How do I tell him why I dont want to have sex with him?


?? I don't have sex with anyone I don't want to have sex with. I am not sure I understand. Just respect yourself and him and see what kind of relationship develops. Unless you are looking for a quick fling, which is fine if that is what you want. I see nothing wrong with that either. But know what it is that you are really looking for. If it is something more long term, I would wait on the physical.


But you have to understand, I do want to have sex with him, but I know it'd be best if I didnt, so that our relationship could go further than f*ck buddies. But Ihave no will power. He could touch my arm, and I'll be all over him. lol.laugh laugh


oh,girl, then you better hope it's your time of the month when you meet him.


laugh laugh laugh laugh Now that's some good advice. LOL. But one question. What CAN I do to ensure his happiness. Nixing anything sexual.


Just be yourself, but with your pants on.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:33 PM



well is he calling u... asking u 2 do things 2gether... how long have u been "chatting" with this person

We've been chatting for about 3 weeks now, and I know that that doesn't seem like a long time, but we talk for 3 hours during the day, and then the same day we usually talk from 11p.m. to 4a.m. Everyday. We have so much in common, it's freaky. I'm serious, I'm not making this up. We've told each other things that no one else knows about. (we never told anyone else) and I have never felt this way about anyone before. I dont want to rush things, so I'm trying not to talk to him about serious stuff, but sometimes it comes up anyways. He tells me he likes me a lot, but I've been in relationships before where they say that, but only want in your pants, so it's hard to trust. Please help.


And if he's on here, you don't think he's going to read this???


I dont care if he does. :wink: We dont hide anything from each other. Heck, if I found a thread that he was writing about, asking for help with me, I'd be flattered.

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Sat 03/08/08 10:43 PM

I just need some tips. I mean, I'm pretty sure he does, but I dont want to make a fool of myself. Anything would help. Thank you.


I have no idealaugh

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Sat 03/08/08 11:59 PM




well is he calling u... asking u 2 do things 2gether... how long have u been "chatting" with this person

We've been chatting for about 3 weeks now, and I know that that doesn't seem like a long time, but we talk for 3 hours during the day, and then the same day we usually talk from 11p.m. to 4a.m. Everyday. We have so much in common, it's freaky. I'm serious, I'm not making this up. We've told each other things that no one else knows about. (we never told anyone else) and I have never felt this way about anyone before. I dont want to rush things, so I'm trying not to talk to him about serious stuff, but sometimes it comes up anyways. He tells me he likes me a lot, but I've been in relationships before where they say that, but only want in your pants, so it's hard to trust. Please help.


And if he's on here, you don't think he's going to read this???


I dont care if he does. :wink: We dont hide anything from each other. Heck, if I found a thread that he was writing about, asking for help with me, I'd be flattered.


Well, the whole sex thing shouldn't be an issue then. If he reads this, he should understand. But ummm.....yeah, I got nothin.

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Sun 03/09/08 06:27 AM
I need to know who this is, so I can avoid him in the future.laugh Can I say BLOCK.

It seems to me, you have a new guy every single day.

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