see that we were not said that life here was supposed to be fair....it was supposed to be NOT fair.....for every good there has to be a point of reference or good would not exist....think of it as a runner who says he is the best....will he not have to race others to learn and make himself better till he get to be the best.....so how could true love not need to be tested just the same, and if you love another with this powerful love that is in you that don't give a ****, if you really love her, don't ****ing give up......it will come back and love you more than you could ever imagine....what each human want to have and experince to be happy, but unconditional love we have to create ourselves....so that the ones around us have a piint of refernece.....we are our own puppets whispering in our own hearts true wisodm from the other side.....just my opinion

Life is what it is.. we'll forever go through many unpleasant experiences with people. However, it's up to you to take the good and add it to the memory bank of qualities to seek in others. But, you also have to take the negatives and find ways to make them positives in YOUR life. You can't be unfair and mistrust someone who's never done anything upsetting to you in a negative way. By doing so, you're the one setting yourself up for misery. When we find our selves mistrusting someone who should naturally be trusted, we're the ones who they should be questioning. Our personality toward others (them) tends to be different, we're always waiting the moment to say they screwed up (when in fact, it could have easily been our fault for the mishap). Don't sell yourself short because of past experiences. It truly is unfair to yourself and the rest of the world at hand.

I have learned through all of life's ups and downs to really deeply trust myself first and foremost and have come to trust others,, I do and did however step in with caution,,,



Its hard when one has been hurt,, yet day by day heals the wounds and trust can then be given carefully,,,

This is the thing,you meet a guy on the internet,you get to know each other very well,change pass checking email of each other,you agree to come to his country and he to yours,etc
My q is should you trust him?

trust and respect is earned, so if one has a doubt which one would have to to ask others for advie, then does not your own heart say maybe not that much trust has been earned, as your own heart will not lie to you, but personal desire will always try to over ride your own wisdom......just me

You gotta learn how to trust again sometime because that is a part of healing and if you dont...all your relationships will be difficult for you

thank you for the advice,but still if i ask the person how can i know is he lies or not.i can never be 100% certain that the other person is telling the truth,right?

we all go thru it. trust me. but if you don't take the chance you'll never experience what's around the next curve in the road babe

It's a choice. I choose to be trusting because I am trust-worthy. And don't we really expect the same out of someone that which we are willing to give?

I set the bar high for my own behavior, thereby, setting the bar high for those with whom I associate. We really do attract those who are like-minded.

I dont think that you ever fully
trust agian.

That is usually my way, too.

Well said.

its crull.would u want them to stab u?

i agree with u,but 100%

Crull eh? Perhaps you mean "Krull" in which case a fork would be the least of my worries, seeing as how I would be running for my life from a spinning blade-edged starfish of doom.

Anywho, lighten up. Life is a dark place with no humor.

i like to put up walls and become completely emotionally unavailable.

T ruth
R eality
U nder
S crutiny
T est

Hardest thing to do in any new relationship........
Judging each person on their own merit