okay, I have met a few ladies on here and have sent mail back and forth. We are close so I have suggested that maybe we should meet for dinner or something. The response I get is they want to get to know me better. I don't have a problem with that, but when we are sending messages back and forth, they never ask any questions....ladies, how are you going to get to know someone if you don't ask questions??? I'm confused here, can you help?

Karl

you have to learn to mind read hun lol ..

I think the easiest way to get to know someone is to just relax and chat. I hate when I'm asked a boatload of questions. I like chatting with someone on line in a casual way, just like I would if I met them in person.

IMHO.

But then I also think meeting someone in person is doable without too much interaction before hand. Life is short. What's the point of waiting? You are in a public place .. so what's the risk?

I've gotten to know guys for months on line, sometimes even longer and still surprised by who they were when we met in person. Online's a crap shoot no matter how you look at it.

BUT ... "to live without risk is to risk not living!"

CARPE DIEM!!

yes, I do believe that would help a great deal...

I understand that, but when they speak in short answer sentences even, it is hard to get to know them also.

yep

It's difficult sometimes for women to feel comfortable meeting someone right away. I've been wary of that myself in certain situations. If someone really REALLY thinks they like you though, they tend to give you a little more leeway in that time period.

yes I can understand that. sometimes I just need to relax and let life take its coarse and not worry about it..

oh you know all about the short answers don't you...

exactly. RELAX. Enjoy the journey

I learned the more you pressure people to meet, the more they want to put it off. Try the nonchalant approach. Leave it alone for a week or so, then out of the blue ask if they want to have coffee or lunch or something. Works for me almost every time

I guess some women are more interested in how you act or respond then who you really are. confusing to say the least, but okay...

that is a good idea....or just wait until they say they want to meet... but not sure how many woman would make the first suggestion about meeting.

you're how old and questioning our methods??

'They just aren't that into you'.

It isn't rocket science...

An interest to want to take some connection off the net and into the harsh light of day, is easy, if the person you want to meet, is genuine, and interested...otherwise....


(see quote above, or they are not authentic in who they say they are, and what they want.)

yes, an old fart and still can't figure out women....but haven't given up yet either..

I totally agree with Jess. I am so not believin' someone cares when they don't interact. Just keep in movin. You'll find the right one when it's the right time.

that is pretty much what I have come to believe. if they don't interact back, then they aren't that interested at all. I just need to move on..

it's not always true though. not always. sometimes people are shy!

well I'm not just going to walk away. I would continue talking with them. I can always use friends. I would just keep my eyes open for others also. Sooner or later a match will happen when the time is right I guess.