be honest with him.tell him the truth, lay it all on the table. ask him to help you ( get on with your life )and help him understand you want to let go. if he leaves he wasnt worth your time, if he stays good for you both... good luck

This new guy is just too good. We have so much in common. Plus, he's gorgeous and thinks I'm beautiful. He is passionate about everything and is so much fun. We talk on the phone for hours, every night. I do want to be with him, and I did tell him that I'm gonna need a little time to be to myself before I give it my all. So yes, I understand, I just need a way of telling my ex, and I'm not showing him this site, he'd die. lol

Thank you

hey np glad i could help

Who is posting this, the cousin or the original pickle?

she may possably be right. ask your self way did you brake up with your ex. you said you had low self asteme while you were with your ex. why? how much and how does this new guy make you fell good about yourself? does he seem sencier? I understand that you still have fellings for your ex. and still love him but you sayed he is not good for you. that should tell you something. I'm telling you to go with either. but it sounds like you should not be with your ex. unless there has been a great change on his part. there are always two sides. I'm not not always able to put into words all that i think. just ask yourself what you want out of life and are these men possibly going to be instep with what you want. I hope i have helped and not confused you more.

Love do what your heart tells you to do. But damn you can't have them both, share the love girl

I totally understand what you are going thru. Been there. Done that.

Wish I could say just walk away. It IS terribly hard. But here's the deal. If you stay for the ex, then you can't be over "there" with the new guy too. That's not fair to anyone.

What I did was tell the ex BF I was talking to someone else..and I needed to see where it would go. And I was sorry .. I won't say it didn't break his heart. It did. And then the new guy ended up phasing out too. LMAO

I know ........... not the end of the story that you'd like to hear.

Original. lol

Thank you for all your help. I appreciate it. Really. I will see how it goes, and use a little bit of all your tips. Thank you.

be honest with yourself first. The ex kinda sounds like a comfort zone type deal. The new guy sounds like your really into him. Take your time, get to know him. Let your ex know succintly that you are exploring "other" options. Be honest and true.

What he said.........

try being straight up with the guy, it typically works, the more time you let go by the harder he and you will make this.

This is the most stupid thing I have ever heard. Are you for real?

BE HONEST... YOU CANT HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TO... DONT MAKE A BIG MESS OUT OF YOUR LIFE... YOU JUST MAY LOSE BOTH... AND HAVE NO ONE.......

You need help with this????????? Ummmm let's see. Tell your ex IT'S OVER!!!! That was difficult... Next!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish I could. I still love him though. You obviously have never been in love.

You obviously have not thought you were loved and found out otherwise.... It really hurts....

Make a damn decision then woman. It is still not difficult. You just don't want to suffer the consequences if you make the wrong one. Well that's too friggin bad since it seems okay for you to play with other people's emotions. You're acting like a coward and giving ammunition for those men that like to woman bash.

I know this is a very diffacult place to be in, but the your fiance was a significant part of your life, fights happen. And I'm guessing that's what broke you two up. Ask yourself if you still love him as much as you used to. Do you think you'll start to love him more? Do one of these people seem more like a friend rather then a relationship?