So i've been thinking. I know its bad.. me thinking.but...me and my best friend have been friends for 11 years now. and i love her to death...just with in the last 8 months she's changed...i mean she's dating some one who i actually like her with...but we dont do the things we normally did together..and we never have just us time..its always the three of us, and then i end up feeling like a third wheel...i've talked to both of them about it and her girlfriend/partner told me straight out that she doesnt like us spending time alone together cuz at one point my best friend had romantic feelings towards me. and she doesnt want them coming back or us doing anything..I'm STRAIGHT..i dont know how manny ways i could say it...they've seen me with guys, and seen how much i like guys...how could she think that..i would never go to girls, and even if i did. i wouldnt take my bestfriend from her..She's happy, and that makes me happy....anyways..its starting to get to me that i'm single...espically after this past week...and i dont know what to do..should i make some new single friends and cut my time with my bestie to a mimum?? It sooo confusing!

Sounds complicated

oh u dont even know...and thats as simple as i can make it..

hey im sorta in the same place right now with my best friend. you cant really do anything except wait it out, it sounds bad but its the truth. You can tell you best friend anything in the world but untill she sees it for her self it wont matter.

Sounds like it's time to give your friend her space and see if she comes back to you. Her partner will probably end up putting the hate on all her friends and then she'll be single again and you'll have your friend back.

Hmmm, thats a tough one.. singles thing not so bad!!

Still have more to live for dear. As much as you want to keep a close friendship with your friend as it was in the past, you may have to give that small space. Your friend has to make a stand as to what to do in this situation now. She has to tell her partner that you mean no harm and that you are the best friend that would never hurt her.

how much longer am i suppost to wait...i've waited through 8 months...and i cant completly abandon her...this week really threw into scope how little i mean to her now...her partner was in the hospital and a friend of mine died. and i was really upset about it and all she could ask was if i was ok to drive and go see her partner at the hospital so she could go to work with out worrying about her cuz i would be there... i wanted to scream

the thing is...after her last ex..i'm really her only friend left...and i dont think she would notice if i wasnt around anymore..