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I had to. Too many muffins and donuts made gain 20 LBS in 3 mos.

well, I guess we have a mutual admiration society, then. :flowerforyou

Okay, I started talking to this guy on here. He asks me out on a date. We have a great time together. He calls me the next day and tells me what a great time he had and that he really liked me and wanted to do it again, but didn't have time for a girlfriend right now and didn't want to break my heart. LOL. He wanted to be my friend, just my friend. Why put up an ad on a personals site if you don't have time for a girlfriend. He's just in college. It's not like he's working full-time and going to college, that I could understand. Now I see why I don't date men my age....
Isn't that just jacked up though?

I'm with you on this one.

If you just wanted "friends", then just post on the forums and make them that way.

You go on dates to meet people who will (with any luck) become MORE than friends. By dating someone and then pulling that "I just want to be friends" schtick, you're showing that you in fact DON'T know what you want, and you're intent on displaying that notion by wasting the other person's time via that wasted date.

Even worse, you'll be sending them a signal that they're not desirable enough to be something more than a friend, which is about as bad as unceremoniously dumping them all together. And women are particularly bad at the self-esteem thing.

It ranks up there with going on a date with a girl, who (after a mere couple of minutes of going to the restaurant) decides to start cell-phoning her friends every other second with inane banter, text messaging, and cell-photos. Not only is it quite rude, but it's also inconsiderate to the other party.

good points, all. But then..what should the boy have done? What do you do if you go out with someone and you like them but not in that way?

i personally think its more than reasonable for him to say that he doesnt have time for a relationship right now... im a full time student and there really isnt much time outside of being in class... try holding down a job and being in a well functioning relationship on top of that... not the easiest...

Well... if the fella truly didn't have time for a girlfriend, he probably shouldn't have asked our victim out in the first place. After all, you don't go ahead and get into something you have no intention of seeing to the end, as that's just poor taste.

If you find that there's no connection after having a date, be truthful, but not blunt. Any person mature enough to deal with rejection will understand, if it's done in a respectful manner.

Or you can lie to the other person and tell him/her that you're going to Uganda on a World Wildlife Fund crusade to save the horned speckled housecat from extinction and won't be back in town for years. If you can't tell them the truth, dazzle them with your bull-honkey, that's what I always say.