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Ok, what would you do if you and your other half have been paying all the bills for over the past year and your roommate (who happens to also be the husbands father) hasn't helped in their part of the bills and doesn't even make an attempt to.... would you give them a chance to get a different job and pay up or boot them to the curb??
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i would talk to him... 
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Edited by
MsTeddyBear2u
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Fri 02/22/08 12:16 PM
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Well if he is elderly you should be taking care of him...
JMO |
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If this roommate is your husband's father, it is up to him really to talk to him. I say you and your husband sit down and determine how you want to handle it. He's family. He's the only father your husband is going to have. Imagine if it was your father... he took care of you, yes?
Once you decide what to do from here, let your husband tell him, and you try to stay out of it. This sounds like a difficult position and I wish you the best of luck. 
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If you have ask them to pay there part and this person is working and refuses to help then it is time to ask them to leave
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If this roommate is your husband's father, it is up to him really to talk to him. I say you and your husband sit down and determine how you want to handle it. He's family. He's the only father your husband is going to have. Imagine if it was your father... he took care of you, yes? Once you decide what to do from here, let your husband tell him, and you try to stay out of it. This sounds like a difficult position and I wish you the best of luck.
nope i never knew my dad...he died when i was 13....and he is actually the only dad my husband knows..not his real dad though.... well he has told him time and time again...nothing changes... i keep telling my hubby to just tell him we don't have the rent one month..and see what happens... |
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talk to him,explain your position as best as you can. If he doesn't understand he needs to participate financially and refuses tell him he will have to leave and set a date as to when he needs to be out.
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Well if he is elderly you should be taking care of him... JMO not everyone has the resources to do this. Some of us can barely pay our own bills, much less support someone else, elderly, family, or not. |
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i agree with you hikerchick..... it's so hard to keep yourself afloat these days let alone another person who just doesn't want to do anything...
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nope i never knew my dad...he died when i was 13....and he is actually the only dad my husband knows..not his real dad though.... well he has told him time and time again...nothing changes... i keep telling my hubby to just tell him we don't have the rent one month..and see what happens... I'm sorry for that. I think you and your husband need to sit down and have a plan. Give him a certain amount of time to start paying, and if he doesn't you need to decide what the consequences are... together. And then follow through with them, if need be. If his presence in the house is causing undo financial strain on the family, address it. If not, then this is between you and your husband. But I still think he should be talking to his dad, not you. (I'm not saying you are, just that it's not your battle to fight). |
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Your post sounds like you are contemplating kicking more than one person to the curb. Does your other half's father have another half or are you talking about kicking both your other half AND his father?
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If this roommate is your husband's father, it is up to him really to talk to him. I say you and your husband sit down and determine how you want to handle it. He's family. He's the only father your husband is going to have. Imagine if it was your father... he took care of you, yes? Once you decide what to do from here, let your husband tell him, and you try to stay out of it. This sounds like a difficult position and I wish you the best of luck.
well if that dosn't make him wake up and get off his ass then you could always turn him into your live in maid. Give him a list of diff. things to be done every day. If he can't contribute financialy then maybe he can make himself useful that way nope i never knew my dad...he died when i was 13....and he is actually the only dad my husband knows..not his real dad though.... well he has told him time and time again...nothing changes... i keep telling my hubby to just tell him we don't have the rent one month..and see what happens... |
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Your post sounds like you are contemplating kicking more than one person to the curb. Does your other half's father have another half or are you talking about kicking both your other half AND his father? no i don't want kick my half to the curb...just the father right now.... i just don't feel it's my place to say something i think my hubby should be the one.... i mean his father has been working and hasn't helped with bills in almost over a year....so we are the only ones payin the bills so it's not like we would be at a loss kicking him out.... |
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Ok, what would you do if you and your other half have been paying all the bills for over the past year and your roommate (who happens to also be the husbands father) hasn't helped in their part of the bills and doesn't even make an attempt to.... would you give them a chance to get a different job and pay up or boot them to the curb?? I would talk with him, get him to help out in some way atleast. If he isn't willing to help, he's gotta go IMO. |
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we told him to at least keep up with the house and stuff...and he complained because my hubby told him to do the dishes the other night.... so i know that wouldn't last to long even if he did....
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