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Topic: child with a atude
Enya Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 2077	Tue 02/19/08 09:00 PM
Strong willed or not. spanking her a$$ as you put it isn't the answer. never has been. have you tried to reason with her? have you even thought that you might be the reason that she's acting up because she thinks that you don't love her? wow. I raised my sisters. and myself. That being said, both of my parents were in the home. I got pregnant at 17 and gave the baby for adoption rather than marry her father and have a ****ty relationship that would end up in divorce. what do you think that your divorce or... how did you put it... oh... "got rid of the mom" Lets think here. ya think she might be acting out because you got rid of HER mom. why? because she wasn't good enough? i don't know. you think your 6 year old might think that you may just get rid of her too? AGREE!

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Tue 02/19/08 09:01 PM
spend more time with her it might be a cry for attention or stop spoiling her and giving her every thing she wants just what ever you do dont start the pill popping game i spend lots of time with her i dont spoil her yes i get her things but she is upset becuse the mother keeps meeting guys off the internet and the last one gave a ring and now he dumpted her monday she loved him she tries to call him every day

celticpride0280 Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 539	Tue 02/19/08 09:01 PM
Kids just cant take a good punch like we used to...I used to get my ass beat with whatever was handy....Despite a slight lisp and a gimp leg I turned out just fine!! ( kidding ) lol.i hear ya i never held that against my parents because the bottom line was i was out of control they grounded me i snuck out they took things away i did not care i was just out of controll totally and deserved my ass beat. but i was not 6 either so that makes a difference Im 35 and I would certainly like to spank your ass hehehehe

LadyZombie Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 189	Tue 02/19/08 09:02 PM
Strong willed or not. spanking her a$$ as you put it isn't the answer. never has been. have you tried to reason with her? have you even thought that you might be the reason that she's acting up because she thinks that you don't love her? wow. I raised my sisters. and myself. That being said, both of my parents were in the home. I got pregnant at 17 and gave the baby for adoption rather than marry her father and have a ****ty relationship that would end up in divorce. what do you think that your divorce or... how did you put it... oh... "got rid of the mom" Lets think here. ya think she might be acting out because you got rid of HER mom. why? because she wasn't good enough? i don't know. you think your 6 year old might think that you may just get rid of her too? AGREE! VERY GOOD POINT! I AM WITH THAT

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Tue 02/19/08 09:03 PM
spend more time with her it might be a cry for attention or stop spoiling her and giving her every thing she wants just what ever you do dont start the pill popping game i spend lots of time with her i dont spoil her yes i get her things but she is upset becuse the mother keeps meeting guys off the internet and the last one gave a ring and now he dumpted her monday she loved him she tries to call him every day why r u letting him call some guy thats left her mom darling u need to take control

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Tue 02/19/08 09:03 PM
Strong willed or not. spanking her a$$ as you put it isn't the answer. never has been. have you tried to reason with her? have you even thought that you might be the reason that she's acting up because she thinks that you don't love her? wow. I raised my sisters. and myself. That being said, both of my parents were in the home. I got pregnant at 17 and gave the baby for adoption rather than marry her father and have a ****ty relationship that would end up in divorce. what do you think that your divorce or... how did you put it... oh... "got rid of the mom" Lets think here. ya think she might be acting out because you got rid of HER mom. why? because she wasn't good enough? i don't know. you think your 6 year old might think that you may just get rid of her too? the mom took the child and would not let me see her so i got rid of her now i have her full time AGREE!

duckiegiggles Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 4642	Tue 02/19/08 09:05 PM
spend more time with her it might be a cry for attention or stop spoiling her and giving her every thing she wants just what ever you do dont start the pill popping game i spend lots of time with her i dont spoil her yes i get her things but she is upset becuse the mother keeps meeting guys off the internet and the last one gave a ring and now he dumpted her monday she loved him she tries to call him every day she will forget him soon change the subject when she brings him up and dont let her near the phone and at 6 im sorry she shouldnt know about who her mom or dad meet off the net but thats my 2 cents

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Tue 02/19/08 09:06 PM
spend more time with her it might be a cry for attention or stop spoiling her and giving her every thing she wants just what ever you do dont start the pill popping game i spend lots of time with her i dont spoil her yes i get her things but she is upset becuse the mother keeps meeting guys off the internet and the last one gave a ring and now he dumpted her monday she loved him she tries to call him every day why r u letting him call some guy thats left her mom darling u need to take control she wanted to talk one time and ask him why i have stoped it now

liquidcandy Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 583	Tue 02/19/08 09:14 PM
Kids just cant take a good punch like we used to...I used to get my ass beat with whatever was handy....Despite a slight lisp and a gimp leg I turned out just fine!! ( kidding ) lol.i hear ya i never held that against my parents because the bottom line was i was out of control they grounded me i snuck out they took things away i did not care i was just out of controll totally and deserved my ass beat. but i was not 6 either so that makes a difference lol i will be 38 sunday and still need disciplined.lmao Im 35 and I would certainly like to spank your ass hehehehe

Shaden Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 6118	Tue 02/19/08 09:26 PM
What worked for a time with my sons was to have them write sentences. ex: I will not lie, I won't scream at my mom. It sure worked for them and with each sentence it reinforced what they shouldn't do. They both hated it. For a 6 year old 50 x is a bunch.

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Tue 02/19/08 09:39 PM
start throwing away the stuff she thinks is hers mt her room to a bed and dresser put her in her room to think about it

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Tue 02/19/08 09:40 PM
What worked for a time with my sons was to have them write sentences. ex: I will not lie, I won't scream at my mom. It sure worked for them and with each sentence it reinforced what they shouldn't do. They both hated it. For a 6 year old 50 x is a bunch. that sounds good

smilingeyes_976 Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 1152	Wed 02/20/08 07:47 PM
she just lost that for 2 days for not going to bed.i told her tonight if her grades are not better next time she gets no tv internet you name it tell next report card.she is a very strong willed child taking away something for that length of time for a six year old isn't going to work. I've tried it. I have learned to praise the good behavior and while I address the bad behavior I dont overdue it. I try to say, hey wow, you got an A on your paper. Lets you and me go to dinner or the movies or whatever to celebrate. Just the two of us. And as for the consequences of bad behavior. I take privileges away unti they earn them back. Also, the school here has my email address and they send me updates on my kids. Whether its behavior or academics they keep me posted and my kids hate that. My youngest son got himself into quite a bit of trouble after my ex and I split up. It was getting out of hand. I called the cops on him. The cops came to my house and talked with my son, reinforced my theory that for every action there is going to be a REACTION and its up to them to decide what type of reaction that they want. Reward or punishment.