how do people typically deal with losing a relationship with someone whom they thought they were in love and wanted to spend their life with? Also, how do you cope with seeing that person in a new relationship with someone else?

it's tough, but you can do it..one day at a time

I dont think there is an easy answer to that, I believe each individual has to find their own copping mechanisms to get ya through it, Mine was my dog until I lost her, now its just getting through 1 day at a time!!

lots and lots of rum for me seems to work...writing letters that you never send and destroy once they are finished, and giving alot of the old "evil eye" other than those things, do nice things for yourself, the last time I broke up with someone he moved in with someone less than a month later...I bought all new panties and bras.... got my hair cut and colored and made sure I sauntered by with a boy toy on my arm the next time I knew I would see them out.... but that's just me.... and I don't play fair.

There is no easy answer to this. Find yourself and do things you enjoy doing. Stay focus to the best of your ablity on what you want out of life. Time will heal this wound.

ok thanx for responding

another question... does the same thing happen to everyone at some point in their lives?

I cant speak for everyone but I do know that alot of people goes through something simular in their lives.

1. hang out with the ppl (friends,family) who truely love u

2.repeat over and over again...apparently this person saved my life.....from being in hell...

3 apparently wasn't ment to be...

4.think about you.....

5. Do things that you normally wouldn't do alone...try it u might like it..

6. some days will really suck, other days won't...

7. Time......it will get better...

8.keep repeating this person just slipped into my shoes and in this relationship they were getting pretty dirty....and besides..they fit u better...

9.Depending on the cercomstances...their relationship maybe short..

10.breath, and be happy, there are others out there that will love u for who u r..

Best of luck to u....

Z

absolutly.... sometimes more than once....**sigh**

thanx u guys

boy toy? nah..just someone younger and BETTER lookin..could be a friend or a neighbor lmao

no doubt about it. more than once

Minus the seeing them with there new partner. Sad to say that it has happened more than once. The hardest was with my ex-wife. I have come to realize that it dosent gett better but it does get easier to deal with because you know what ya need to do to mend your broken heart.

Things will get better.

well I'm 34 now I was about 32 at the time the guy was 29 and the boy on my arm...22 tall dark and handsome.... oh, and adoring..... made him crazy.... didn't even have to tell the boy toy what was going on...he was right on que.. that's the best revenge. The kind you don't have to work for.

I found that when you are with someone for so long and things don't work out, the initial breakup is very hard. Because you are so used to being with that person. It's almost like you need to go through a withdrawal from that person. And it is hard. But you need to focus on other things during that time. I made sure I surrounded myself with friends and kept very busy at work, with my daughter, etc.

It is hard to get through. You just have to let time do its work. Tolerate yourself and distract yourself from those painful memories by trying new activities and work. Don't try to get into new relationship right away or you will make more mistakes than ever. Let time heal your pain.

TIME heals all wounds!

Just know there is someone out there that is better for you!
Love yourself and take care of yourself, the rest will follow!