Topic: why do I always get the same answer your my best guy friend
1ofakindgt's photo
Sun 02/10/08 03:43 AM
Ok so I was just wondering why I get this answer alot from girls. They always say your my best guy friend but nothing more. Idk I have been told im to nice sometimes but I cant help it thats my personality. Im tired of being thier best friend I want more.

Also there is this girl I really like alot. Shes smart funny and we have alot in common. But she gave me the same line as all the others. Your my best guy friend although she didnt say anything about it being more. Any tips on what to do. I would do or give just about anything to be with this girl. Please help.

ujGearhead's photo
Sun 02/10/08 03:47 AM
Maybe start by talking to her about it?

soxfan94's photo
Sun 02/10/08 03:47 AM
Be assertive. You've got to show confidence and ambition. Fundamentally, a girl is looking for a man who gets what he wants in life. She wants to know that he is secure and will do well with school, finances, a job, etc. If you're not assertive enough to get her, then that is sort of proof to her that you aren't actually able to get what you want.
Girls need a guy with a backbone and who isn't afraid to stand up for what he believes in. She'll need to know that her guy is going to be there for her and able to stand up for her. Show her that you're that type of guy by asserting yourself and your feelings towards her.

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Sun 02/10/08 03:52 AM
Sometimes we woman are a little dense and don't get that you want more out of the relationship. JMO, but if you're interested in a woman right at the beginning, let her know. Then, you won't automatically be put into the "just friend" category. And, don't discount the value of having a good friend, be they male or female. Boyfriends, girlfriends, they come and go, but your real friends, always there flowerforyou flowerforyou


SonOfJack's photo
Sun 02/10/08 03:58 AM
Edited by SonOfJack on Sun 02/10/08 03:59 AM
this is tricky, first you have to keep them close enough to know your there, but far enough away as to not be a friend, you don't want to be the shoulder to cry on, you want to be the guy causing the crying.. that sounds bad but you get my drift.

then by keeping them at a distance but close, throw some lines out to embaress them, if they blush you got'em, if they don't, work on it and they will.

1ofakindgt's photo
Sun 02/10/08 04:27 AM
Well the thing that I dont get that no girl seems to give to ****s about, and I dont mean to sound stuck up. But I am 22 years old I have owned my own house for almost 2 yrs and I also own and run a sucessful towing company. So I am assertive and I have goals and go after things. But it seems like some girls would rather be with a guy that has no money. Idk. noway

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 02/10/08 04:30 AM
Edited by hellkitten54 on Sun 02/10/08 04:30 AM
I say be honest with them about your feelings. If they don't want anything more, then move on. Hell I'd go out with you.:wink: smokin

soxfan94's photo
Sun 02/10/08 04:30 AM

Well the thing that I dont get that no girl seems to give to ****s about, and I dont mean to sound stuck up. But I am 22 years old I have owned my own house for almost 2 yrs and I also own and run a sucessful towing company. So I am assertive and I have goals and go after things. But it seems like some girls would rather be with a guy that has no money. Idk. noway


My point was that you have to prove that you're assertive in the specific context of the girl by going after her and making it clear. The rest, with owning a house and company, is just icing on the cake as reasons she will likely stay with you.

PS nice work on the house and company.

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Sun 02/10/08 04:42 AM

Well the thing that I dont get that no girl seems to give to ****s about, and I dont mean to sound stuck up. But I am 22 years old I have owned my own house for almost 2 yrs and I also own and run a sucessful towing company. So I am assertive and I have goals and go after things. But it seems like some girls would rather be with a guy that has no money. Idk. noway


Or, it could be that you're placing way too much emphasis on what you own, and not enough on who you are flowerforyou That's a total turnoff for a lot of women.

1ofakindgt's photo
Sun 02/10/08 11:40 AM
I definetly know I dont put an emphasis on what I own. I think maybe though I have a problem with who I am idk

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Sun 02/10/08 11:42 AM
You need some "Rico Suave'" lessons!!!devil devil devil devil