I would tell him the truth and how you feel. Truth is always better than lies

I would have to wonder about someone who did not even want to see their own child. If he doesn't like children, why did he have one? That seems so insensitive. I feel sorry for his daughter.
Tell him the truth and tell him why. I wouldn't even be vague about it. I'd straight up tell him what the problem is and you are not comfortable pursuing anything further because of it.

there is another side of the coin also. i have adult boys who live far away due to divorce. i do not have a lot to do with them at all. ever since they have been teenagers the only time i hear from them is when they want or need someting, IE, a car or a cash loan that never gets repaid, i will not be a cash cow for them. if i heard something other than they need, need, need, it might be differant, my youngest is in the navy (22 yrs old) was thinking of visiting for xmas but didnt have the money i told him maybe next year (he is in texas) but he found the money to go to ohio with his mother, if that makes me badd so be it, but if all you do is pay their way what are you teaching them, how great it is to live on welfare? sorry, not in my life time.

This guy's child is 4 years old and he doesn't WANT to see her. I see your point about your sons, but this is a different situation.

it would depend on why he doesn't want to see his child

maybe he associates seein his child with being with the childs mother

my older brother has yet to get past his son's mother dumpin him for her X bf..so he doesn't see his son due to that..

considering the fact that the boy is doing fine with the step dad, i see no reason to intrude on his life by bringing his biological father into the picture.. my brother pays his child support, does the right thing financially..just not emotionally, his son has a step dad for that

not sure that is fair to the child, but much better than some alternatives that make the news, sad that we can not put our children first, but sometimes our former mates will not allow it.

Any guy that doesn't want to see his child isn't worth squat anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do whatever you have to. He's not worth any kindness

I know a good hitman....he can solve the problem and you won't even have to talk to him.

say it straight up ... no other way babe

The only way I could be-friend a man (or woman) who abandons his/her child is if I had hope I could change their outlook on their own.

But if he's that unfeeling and uncaring for his baby then probably no hope of that anyway.