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| Topic: Here is one maybe someone can explain to me.... | |
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I have trouble believing the person who boasts about how selfless they are. ie. "Hey guys, I am extremely modest! I'm more modest than you! I'm the most modest person here!" yeh I can beleve in why eople have trouble seeing that, because in so many cases as stated earlier, many are out for some payback. Luckily another poster brought some light in at least for my situation, because of the wonderful people in my life who give so much to me, I don;t have that "need" for that "return" because they have already given it to me and more. So there is no "need" for me in that area, because those i love have already filled any "need" so I have no "need" in that area. it explained a lot for me. 
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Edited by
leahmarie
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Mon 02/04/08 12:28 AM
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OK, I just read a thread which reminded me of something I have often wondered about. The statement was "you can't love anyone until you love yourself". And then that brought up in my mind the Biblical scripture of "Love your neighbor as yourself". Now here is the thing, I am considered a "selfless" person. I care more about others than I do myself. Not at all that I have a self esteem issue, I am very secure and confident. But I simply care more about others than I do myself. I have always been this way my entire life. So when people make those kinds of statements or I hear things like that, they simply do not seem to "fit" with me. Is this "unhealthy"? I don't consider it to be, because again, I have no self esteem issues or security issues. But I wanted to get other people's views on this one???? Caring more about others than yourself is not a good quality, unless you are talking about your parents, syblings, husband, or children. Putting others except for those I noted before yourself is not desirable since sooner or later you will wind up in an unhealthy relationship where someone is going to take advantage of you and use you and walk all over you. |
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