I cannot tell you what to do specifically for this problem, however, whenever I need advice, I listen to the Beatles. Try it, it's like a musical magic eight ball

just sat him down and told him, he reacted pretty well.

I told him I wanted him to move out.

I think he thought it wasn't over.

I didn't do anything for 3 years as far as filing for divorce.
I didn't feel any reason to at the time, as I wasn't interested in dating then. We divorced december of 2006.

We are very amicable. My other advise is try to settle as quickly as possible, don't let the lawyers eat up your money.

My ex and I said ok to pretty much everything I lawyers suggested and decided we would work everything else out after it was final. But of course that is alot of trust.

Good idea Adeph. Ha ha. I love the beatles too. Let's see..she came in through the bathroom window..hmm..no that doesn't help..hmmm

The beatles were the first indie rock group...great listening hun

Thanks Daisy. I guess I'm still getting my nerve up. And of course, I'll be the one having to leave find a place.

The biggest concern..2 children 13 and 8. I HAVE to do right by them. So figuring out how to make sure they are provided for PLUS making my own way is quite the problem. (I'm no rich man)

good for you, you may have to take a second job, but every little bit helps, I think, making an effort is more important than the amount, although, it counts too.

my kids were 13 and 10 at the time

Second job. Hmm..that's food for thought. I need to find something I can do at home so it doesn't cut any more of my time out. (I already work full time) I want share custody so I need my time with the kiddos..but maybe I can work in some extra work at home or something..I mean I fix computers..

Hmmm..thanks daisy. Yes that's some food for thought.

The worst part of this is my wife does not work..well not consitantly. She has some health problems too. So I will really look like the wretch for leaving. And, quite frankly, I don't want to put her in a difficult situation. But I cannot continue. I feel so trapped.

Anyway, I know it's strange to vent on a pblic message board here. Just figured there would be others who were/or have faced my situation b4.

Hey thats ok with me, I think that's why we are here, to share.

You are not doing your wife any favors, if you are that unhappy in your marriage. Maybe, a separation will help.

I'm here, but i should be asleep

I'm just curious, what is it about the relationship, or your wife, that is making you feel trapped or 'done'?

I appreciate that. Just hate to bring everyone down with such a serious subject.

I'm thinking when our tax $ comes in..I'm gonna find a little place.

I don't know how I'll pay for both places. I can't abandon the bills here in the house my kids live in. I guess momma will just have to learn to step up.

I've been her "care giver" and support system for so long it's hard to stop thinking in those lines.

Anyway, didn't mean to dominate the conversation here folks..sorry..carry on..

no problem jadar

Adeph - Well.. the trapped part is that she is VERY needy. I think 20 years ago I was actually attracted to her for that reason. I needed to be needed. But she is totally dependant upon me. I do everything. Make the money, take care of the house, wash, cleaning, etc..she doesn't do much. And there hasn't been any intimacy between us in a LONNNNNNNG time. She has medical problems that cause it to hurt if you knwo what I mean. The doc said there is a medical procedure but she didn't want to go through it. Just wasn't worth itto her I guess. (are you catching my drift here) So I'm jest a lil resentful about that. And it's not Just that. I think that is just ONE example of who she is. I have little respect or affection for her. I don't want to be here..but we are in debt and I don't want to see her lose everything. So I guess the debt situation makes me feel like I have to stay the course.

Long..sorry.

Thanks all for letting me vent a little. I have to go wake the boy for school. He has to catch an early bus.

Sorry if I was a drag.

Hope you all have a great day.

not a drag, no worries,

Have a great day!

I'm off to work, bye adeph, jadar and everyone else