Ok I have been talking to my ex....i dated him for 4 years and we broke up on really bad terms...but he said he was sorry and wants to hang out! my family don't like him to well but everyone i have dated after him all turn out to be weirdo's or just not my type but talking to him has been making me think! i don't know what to do??? Help lol

How did he treat you during the relationship and why did you break up on bad terms? I would consider that before thinking about getting back with him. I understand about being lonely but sometimes it is better to be alone than to be mistreated.

See thats it he hated my job we always fight and i broke up with him cause he got drunk and called me a Bit#$! we never had good comunication and he was not very loving lol

I know exactly how ur feeling right now..my ex popped back into my life and we were engaged....and none of my friends or family like him....but u just need to look into ur self...and if u think that he's the one you want to be with then go for it agian....ur friends and family will come around in time...you being happy should be the most important thing for them and if he makes u happy then they should come around...if you dont want to Date him agian make it clear, i mean CRYSTAL CLEAR, that you dont want to date him anymore...but offer to stay friends with him...Just make sure if u decide not to see him as a boyfriend...make sure he understands that...it might be hard for a while...u never know there might still be the one for u out there

dont do it for real looks bad sounds bad so probley will be bad

if its something u want to persue...lay down rules for him...tell him exactly what you expect...and if he's got a problem with ur job, tell him its just a job and it pays the bills unless he wants to do it(that tends to get them to back off) and push for comunication..

Yea the thing is i cryed more than ever when i was with him cause the way he treated me and made me feel he is an angry person....and even if we where friends if i went to hang out with him we would end up doin the deed cause he was my first and i think that has somethin to do with why i'm confused lol

sounds like you were happy with him.Let it go.You will only end up where you were.Keep looking!there alot better men uot there.

It was bad and i know if i go back all the trust issues and yelling and anger will be there i'm confused ver. my last boyfriend who was wayyyyyy to nice i think my system wants some bad but i can't go back there again i was miserable...........but the sex was good! lol

well if ya like being miserable go back to it

the tell him that ur sorry and you just cant have him in ur life...i know that when i was with my ex he slowly crushed my spirt, tryed to change just about everything about me, and he was a verrry mean person, and he was a drunk...and he seemed to know exactly what to say to make me cry....and when he was trying to get me back he made me cry too many times to count..."the only one who's worth ur tears wont make you cry" either cut him out completly...or lay down rules and stick with them...maybe he doesnt realize what he was doing...my ex didnt till got the guts and ripped him apart about it...

SOunds like you don't need to revisit this relationship 2 me. Unless he has changed, and you set ground rules for the relationship on how you are treated, Being with someone isn't worth being called a B***h, or having to put up with fighting all the time. You'll find a good man, just keep looking.

thats true!..i feel ya, i think i will let him if thats what he wants he can't get it if he don't want to be friends to bad cause i really can't go back there honestly i would be stupid to do it

Why don't BOTH of you start getting some help & see what happens. You still care, or you wouldn't be considering this.
Education can change people, we went to the Omaha YWCA, seperate groups & then couples counseling. Put things back together, BETTER than the beginning.
Takes WORK & a real desire to be together, FOREVER.

Want more info.; drop me a mail.
COUNSELING DOES WORK

INTENTION = RESULTS

Go for it...but make sure its CRYSTAL CLEAR that ur just friends.... and no doing the deed....make sure u stick to whatever u laydonw...

hahaha good idea if you could get him to go i do care for him alot i think its because it ended so badly but i know him the best he knows me the best but like i said i would stupid to i broke up with him once for 5 months went back said he would be better he promised it was ok for a month or two then it went out the window when he got where he wanted me so now that i have talked it out i think he would be better as a friend

INTENTION = RESULTS

If he won't do the work to solve the problems;
then his intention is not right & (my words) he is blowing smoke up your skirt about getting back together.

You said; you have gone back before.

He is getting the cake & eating it too.

Your better than that, let him tell his stroy walking.

My thoughts.

You are a beautiful lady. Don't settle for that kind of relationship. You deserve better and there is better out there. You have to put yourself first! Do you really want to be around someone with a drinking problem? You don't need the abuse, be it physical or emotional. It only progresses to worse. I have been there. I will never put myself in that position again. Most abusers will not change. You must be #1. Good Luck in your decision.

Sounds like you just answered your own question.
If it,s going to turn out to be the same way it was before then why put yourself through it.
For Petes sake get a vibrator if you want good sex

lol i don't need a vibrator hahaha i personaly don't beleive anyone needs it that bad for one if ya need to get off you know what ya like lol