Topic: Rebound
briancarr's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:22 PM
Would you date someone that newly ended a long term relationship, or would you be afraid that you would end up getting the rebound dump?

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:23 PM

Would you date someone that newly ended a long term relationship, or would you be afraid that you would end up getting the rebound dump?
I would give them time to see whaere they actually stand. Hm, try knowing it was a year and that haapen to youohwell

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:24 PM
I think I would worry about rebound myself.

I have been single along time- would prefer someone not so new off the press. ohwell

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:24 PM
One of my top "rules"
No dating anyone that has not been single for at least a year.

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Sat 01/26/08 04:29 PM
I have and found them to do about three things, go BACK to the one they left.
Or USE ME to make their EX jealous.
Or, AFTER three weeks or so tell me,,,THEIR just NOT READY for a relationship RIGHT NOW?

So, I could meet and talk with a babe that came out of one, but I would NEVER think,,,,,,THEY were ready for a REAL CLOSE relationship NOW!

So if YOUR thinking of someone NOW, it might just be ONLY because YOUR missing the OTHER one?

GOOD LUCK!!drinker :smile: smokin

briancarr's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:33 PM

I have and found them to do about three things, go BACK to the one they left.
Or USE ME to make their EX jealous.
Or, AFTER three weeks or so tell me,,,THEIR just NOT READY for a relationship RIGHT NOW?

So, I could meet and talk with a babe that came out of one, but I would NEVER think,,,,,,THEY were ready for a REAL CLOSE relationship NOW!

So if YOUR thinking of someone NOW, it might just be ONLY because YOUR missing the OTHER one?

GOOD LUCK!!drinker :smile: smokin
Its so new that she still has stuff at his house, like her puppy.

BigCurt_31's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:33 PM
Edited by BigCurt_31 on Sat 01/26/08 04:35 PM

Would you date someone that newly ended a long term relationship, or would you be afraid that you would end up getting the rebound dump?

I tried that with the last girl I was with for a relationship! She was in marriage for 16 years. Most of it was spent unhappily. She left him for me and used me for about a year to build her esteem up and confidence. Her husband wasn't very impressive and used drugs. She was an RN and becaue they were high school sweethearts put up with it and they had 2 kids. Well, she had me and I basically became a showpeice and something to build off of and then she was gone and remarried 5 months later. So, My answer is not. A person needs at least a year from a long-term to be able to deal with the next realtionship and to diminish the amount of emotional baggage they carry.
So, defintely no!

briancarr's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:38 PM


Would you date someone that newly ended a long term relationship, or would you be afraid that you would end up getting the rebound dump?

I tried that with the last girl I was with for a relationship! She was in marriage for 16 years. Most of it was spent unhappily. She let him for me and used me for about a year to build her esteem up and confidence. Her husband wasn't very impressive and used drugs. She was an rn and becaue they were high school sweethearts put up with it and they had 2 kids. WEll, she had me and I basically became a showpeice and something to build off of and then she was gone and remarried 5 months later. So, My anser is not. A person needs at least a year from a long-term to be able to deal with the next realtionship and to diminish the amount of emotional baggage they carry.
So, defintely no!
This is going to sound bad, but. I would have a chance with her if this guy wasnt a jerk. she takes care of herself, and has no kids.i think for me i should just stay in the hit it and quit it mode, so when shes ready to go, i wont get hurt. She is a real piece.

BigCurt_31's photo
Sat 01/26/08 04:56 PM
Edited by BigCurt_31 on Sat 01/26/08 04:59 PM



Would you date someone that newly ended a long term relationship, or would you be afraid that you would end up getting the rebound dump?

I tried that with the last girl I was with for a relationship! She was in marriage for 16 years. Most of it was spent unhappily. She let him for me and used me for about a year to build her esteem up and confidence. Her husband wasn't very impressive and used drugs. She was an rn and becaue they were high school sweethearts put up with it and they had 2 kids. WEll, she had me and I basically became a showpeice and something to build off of and then she was gone and remarried 5 months later. So, My anser is not. A person needs at least a year from a long-term to be able to deal with the next realtionship and to diminish the amount of emotional baggage they carry.
So, defintely no!
This is going to sound bad, but. I would have a chance with her if this guy wasnt a jerk. she takes care of herself, and has no kids.i think for me i should just stay in the hit it and quit it mode, so when shes ready to go, i wont get hurt. She is a real piece.

Brian, my friend! I, actually, find myself in about the same quandry you are. I just can't seem to hold back the feeling's for her though. If I was ten years younger maybe. I just don't like doing that stuff anymore. The reason is even when I thought I had no feelings for a person, you still find yourself feeling empty at the end. I think you would be making a mistake if you did that. No matter, what you think you are still giving up a part of you and messing with some internal feeling's. All it is gonna do is mess you up for when you want something real and it comes. Please don't do it!

briancarr's photo
Sat 01/26/08 05:00 PM




Would you date someone that newly ended a long term relationship, or would you be afraid that you would end up getting the rebound dump?

I tried that with the last girl I was with for a relationship! She was in marriage for 16 years. Most of it was spent unhappily. She let him for me and used me for about a year to build her esteem up and confidence. Her husband wasn't very impressive and used drugs. She was an rn and becaue they were high school sweethearts put up with it and they had 2 kids. WEll, she had me and I basically became a showpeice and something to build off of and then she was gone and remarried 5 months later. So, My anser is not. A person needs at least a year from a long-term to be able to deal with the next realtionship and to diminish the amount of emotional baggage they carry.
So, defintely no!
This is going to sound bad, but. I would have a chance with her if this guy wasnt a jerk. she takes care of herself, and has no kids.i think for me i should just stay in the hit it and quit it mode, so when shes ready to go, i wont get hurt. She is a real piece.

Brian, my friend! I, actually, find myself in about the same quandry you are. I just can't seem to hold back the feeling's for her thouggh. If I was ten years younger maybe. I just don't like doing that stuff anymore. The reason is even when I thought I had no feelings for a person, you still find yourself feeling empty at the end. I think you would be making a mistake if you did that. No matter, what you think you are still giving up a part of you and messing with some internal feeling's. All it is gonna do is mess you up for when you want something real and it comes. Pleease don't do it1
Since we have been physical, i would have to break her heart again. How do i say lets just be friends now. even though i dont think its going to last,how can i break it off?, and what reason do i give?