I always get the ol.....You seem like a nice guy. Buttttt...

Thats where it ends.

If it wasn`t for the people I consider my on-line friends, I would have been outta here a long time ago.

I`m very thankful for the on-line friends that I have here.

((( my on-line friends )))

I LOVE ya`ll

yep, u r sooooo right

Thank you so very much ((( LadyLiz )))

I truly consider you one of my favorite on-line friends. I consider it an honor meeting you on here.

Ditto. You are one of my best online friends. Come by the reject room later & lets see if we can start aparty!!!!

I've had those experiences also. Always a shocked when it happens!

At those times I have to really try to be diplomatic and not move too close to RUDE! Best to sit near the Exit Ddoor and have a good Get-Away Car!

Thanx for the invite. ....You know I will be there. After all it isn`t a party without a bartender and a dj..Ya know I`ll do both..

It was a bit hard, but thankfully he was a real Gentleman. I kind of felt sorry for him. Wondered if I was just a "I'm Lonely and Desperate" date? If he was any different I would have walked out. Thanks for the post.

I'd personally say that ALL bets are off until you meet and then spend serious time with someone. I'm as perceptive as the next guy and fancy myself a good judge of human nature so I'm well aware of a subtle hint. Maybe the answer to the question has something to do with having a generation of people who were practically raised by the television and other forms of escapist fantasy, thus not being aware of the realitys of life,or having the insights it takes to know the difference between who they really are and who they wish people to believe they are.It's too bad that they lack that ability because in their own self deception they haven't any qualms about decieving others.
One scary notion I have is that unhealthy people can only really attract unhealthy people and they know it down deep. I suspect in that case, they troll for others like them without having much regard for who's time they waste in the process.
Hey, good luck & thanks for the great post. It really does touch on a central issue of internet dating.

One scary notion I have is that unhealthy people can only really attract unhealthy people and they know it down deep. I suspect in that case, they troll for others like them without having much regard for who's time they waste in the process.


that is so true-that pretty much says it all.
if you wonder why you only seem to attract a certain type of person, it takes a little HONEST self-examination to come to
a conclusion you can learn from, and make necessary changes
to self.

hey !!! you quoted me without givin me credit !
lol

my bad-but i thought the computer would insert the
disclaimer...a but NNNOOOOOO.

my humble apologies aqua.

HAPPY WEEKEND !!
hows it goin'?

Thanks ladyliz. I agree.

And yes, we do find all kinds on the internet. That's for sure.

Your recent post is a bit off the original question of "Guys, how would you best like to be told when there is no match?" You do however; bring up some good and interesting thoughts as to why some people feel it necessary to lie about their age or anything at all. You also bring up an interesting and common perception as to why people attract a certain type. All valid and all easy to find examples to fit the notion of "Like attracts Like."

Since this older and obviously "age challenged" gentleman sought me out, I don't know what similarities we have other than we both like food and are Fat people. He treated my very nicely and mentioned all night how kind and sweet I was. This was a bit annoying because I was not into him! Thankfully he was also very kind and sweet. Really! He stated that he saw this in my profile and pictures. Maybe that was the draw for him, or maybe it was the Fat thing? Maybe he saw someone that he thought he could have a pleasant time with even if only for one dinner? Who knows? I like to think of myself as kind, easy going, sociable and adaptable to any situation. However, I do not think I have a BIG SIGN on my forehead that says "Lonely Desperate Sucker - Lie To Me." In my case with this man it was definitely not a "Like attracts Like" situation.

In cyber space we are open to attracting all kinds. It is one of the attractions and also one of the perils. I get all kinds of interests from all types of men. Even though I am very specific in my profile as to whom I want to meet, I still get strange offers every now and then. I will go out on a limb here and write that it is probably like that for most people here also.

I consider this truth challenged older gentleman one of those strange ones. I guess it's just the "nothing ventured - nothing gained, or Boys will be Boys" attitude that makes them try anyway. Or, maybe they are just trying to see if I am desperate enough to settle for someone less than what I really wrote that I am looking for? Ha! No way!

By the way,I sent him an email this morning and wrote exactly what I wrote in my original posting. Honest, direct but kind.

All of you agreed with me that that is the best way to go.

Thanks for all the responses!

Good luck to all of us!

This has been great to read and I agreed with everyone. Be honest and see where the chips land.

honesty but doing it very diplomatically

I would rather be told right away thamn led on. I hate players.

Thanks all! Good luck to everyone. Let's all try to be more kind by being honest and upfront! Deal?

just tell him to wait there in the hall while you go get your whips and chains, hot wax and scissor hands

Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy!

And I HATE players