shooter, what kinda cheese is it? i'd like to have string cheese if ya don't mind ;)

Anything you desire, darlin

A guy may use the "just friends" line for one or more of these reasons:

>Society has brainwashed him to be a "nice guy" so he holds the belief that he should not "offend" women by being sexual with them. The nice guy believes that all sexual matters are offensive to women and that women hate sex. Therefore, he's going to steer clear away from the sexual realm by putting on the friend mask.

>He is trying to protect his ego by taking a safe route. He has been rejected and hurt in the past so he uses the "just friends" line as a protective shield. He is basically being a total wussbag by eliminating risk from the equation. He sits back on his just friends line, waiting for the woman to make the first move so that he can ensure the security of his ego.

>He is "playing games," so to speak.

>He's gay.

love ya doll....

so, all knowing one, what are you a shrink

if u disagree then just put forth your arguments instead of hatin on me. u dont even know me.

I never tire of this line. It reminds me of poor misunderstood Caris.

He is simply asking you what your qualifications are. Albeit in a challenging way. Getting defensive about it does not cast a very positive light on you, Chief.

I do kind of find it comical that every reason you could think up, as to why a guy might be wanting friends... with exception to the last...is coming from a pretty gamey and negative place. Ruling out any legitimate reasons for someone honestly wanting to be find friends.

By the way...welcome back and cover your bowl. So no one pisses in your cheerios again.

Just my 2 cents, but he was answering based off of my OP, simply from the information that he had.

His expertice... he's a guy, and I was asking an opinion from a guy, and really as much as I had a distaste for him and the PUA stuff (which I still do dislike the PUA stuff) he is actually a pretty intelligent kid, and I value his opinions, sometimes we agree, and sometimes we don't. That's ok, becuase Goddess knows I hardly agree with anyone including myself all the time.

lmao r u serious? Caris would never say anything like "if u disagree then just put forth your arguments." Instead he would say things like "if you disagree with me then that means you are a bad person."
thanks for quoting only one part of what i said to take advantage of your mudslinging tactics, man. you should run for office or something.

OMG where the f*ck is Caris..... oh no is it like Beetlejuice and if you say his name 3 times he'll come back?? Nobody say it again please....

WHOOT WHOOT

Well, if you want to be straight up, just tell the guys that you're looking to find out if they're right for romance and perhaps an eventual marriage and then ask them where they're coming from and there won't be too much confusion. That's usually what I mean when I say, I want to be friends. I mean I want to find out if we click and if we can take things to where we feel comfortable visiting each other's houses and hanging out together. I'm not into hanging out with someone for more than an hour or two at a time anyway. To spend more time, we'd have to be going on a trip or something, I guess. But that's what the just friends thing means with me. I'm checking out the person to see if we're compatible financially, socially, conversationally, temperamentally, religiously, and all the rest. Checking to see if the person is a pack rat and neat at home or not and all the rest of it. So just friends can cover a lot of ground. If you want to know what someone's after, ask them. They may come across. If not, blow people off. Everyone'll find what makes them happy sooner or later, I reckon.

Dont hate you dude, really, i am in here for the forums and friends, im disabled vet, so dont get out much, there are always more reasons for something than to sum them up like that. your right, dont know you, but i do know there are many reasons other than the ones listed.

That was simply the part that reminded me of him. Although, now that you mention it.. I disagree.. He often felt as if people were not addressing his statements and made that claim rather then respond to a question or statement directly. That was certainly one of his relative few tactics. You mention another.

Call it mudslinging if you like. I'm not offended. I was simply stating a point and offering a better way to address sharpshooters question.

What are your qualifications? Why should he take you seriously.

As for my question.
Do you really believe there is no legitimate reason as to why someone would be here looking for friendship? Or did you just omit that possibility for another reason?

I honestly don't care if he takes me seriously or not. I aint trying to help him. What I said was directed to Lily, not that guy. jeez.


I omitted that possibility situationally as according to what Lily described. Did you even read her original post?

jeez.

Yeah, sounds like they were looking for nothing more than friendship in the first place, alright. Oh, and i added the "He's gay" thing just for kicks. suck it up.

Let it go baby, i appreciate your thoughts....

no way lol
arguing with jistme is half the fun i have on JSH haha

Is flirting with me some amount of a percentage? like 1/800th at least?