when you are in a relationship..how much time do you like to spend with
that special someone?

i know it may depend on how long you have been together..so lets say,
over a year.

and what do you do when one of you wants to be together, more often? or
together less?

is there still hope? or is it just not a match?

hope i get some opinions..:)

i like to spend alot of time with them but i don't get upset if they
don't. if they want to spend more or less i truly appreciate it when
they convey that thought to me so that we can fix it. there is still
hope tretia but you know some people aren't real direct with how they
feel, sometimes they aren't even sure of how they feel themselves. hang
in there if you want the relationship to work.

Well different people are different...so its really hard to generalize!
I'll answer them in order the best I can.
Well in my relationship after a year we were married so we wanted to
spend as much time together as we could.
If one wants more time than the other compramise...they may not be on
the same level as you?
I think that there is still hope....maybe its just taking longer for
that person to get to where te other one is(not knowing which is which
lol)You are a match or you wouldn't be together ...there is no perfect
match lol...some are just beter than others

how is everyone doing today

Every relationship IS different. It is, however, normal at different
points to want time to oneself off and on. Generally in the beginning it
takes a pry bar to get people apart but over time they tend to fall into
a comfort zone. Life is full of interruptions and such and you have to
strike a balance. Drifting apart is different than just "needing space".
If there is a happy balance all is fine but if the "need of space" takes
too much emphasis then the people tend to drift apart and lose touch.
Even in a marriage some experts recommend a once a week date, just the
husband and wife, without the kids. It allows the couple to stay in
touch and on the same page in this crazy thing they call life.

Dear Trecia, I have been there and back, believe me. I've read all of
the books too. If you two live close by, at least 80 miles, and you
want to go forward and he doesn't (and vice versa) then it's time to go.
Unless you feel the same. My timetable is 3 dates, you stop being a
Friday night date and become a Sat. night date. After about 6-7 weeks he
starts wanting to be with you on some week nights, too. After month 4
serious talk should come about concerning being exclusive. If he balks,
he isn't serious or is getting scared. If you're ready, by one year
there certainly should be a definite committment made, if that's what
YOU want, other wise tell him that you want more--then Goodbye. Don't
be surprised if he returns a month or so later confessing that he made a
mistake and wants to keep seeing you. If you do, expect the same thing
all over again. That might not be the answer to your question 'cause I
don't know the specifics. But that is the patten I've experienced. MM

I think is good to spend time together, but is also good to give
eachother space, because at the begining is very confortable being
together all the time, but in time you will get on eachother's nerves,
at least that is the way I think, because a person needs to be missed by
the other.
so is not good to spend to much time together, just the right amount of
time, and you will tell how much time, when is getting boring.
lol,lol,lol

If you're so in love with your girlfriend ,you spend a lot of time
.It's better way .In opposite case same thing

Tretia, one of the reasons I broke off my last relationship is because I
felt SO smothered. He dominated my space and time. I couldn't spend an
hour or two on the phone with my mom or one of my sisters or brothers
without him beeping me a number of times. I couldn't spend one evening
without him calling me every hour to see what I was doing. I was
smothered.

I told him that I needed space and even though we had been in a
relationship for 5 years, he turned right around and was dating within a
few days. I guess I didn't mean that much to him anyway.

Relationships are compromise, so talk to him about it and if he turns as
mine did, it didn't mean that much to him either.

Tret, There is nothing really more to say, that everyone else
has not covered. I will say this, as a personal note.
I don't feel that any two people can talk openly enough.
If you have a great communication then you will always know
there love, there space, and alot about the thoughts they
are having, you will come to read each other, and know when
there not their self to ask, whatss up...I hope that helps?

I agree with I am...communication is a must!

thank you for all of your kind and honest replies!! :)

Well ..again...your very welcome!

WELL, DAMM IT LUNNY, WHERE THE HELL YA BEEN HIDING AT??? LOL

Dang sushi I liked yout timetable thing I think that will be very
helpful to me as well. I never seem to know if I am working too hard or
expecting too much from a relationship. I seem to fall soo fast it is
insane.

KEVIN, PLEASE, DON'T TELL THEM THAT, THEY MAY WANT TO LOCK YOU UP, THESE
PPS TAKE THAT KINDA STUFF REAL .........LOL

JUST KIDDING MAN, WHATS UP DUDE?????LOL

hey iam where you been though you said you were on all night somewhere
here and I have not seen or heard from you all day or night.

On your other thought about them locking me up that may be fine with me
as long as they don't just leave me there helpless. Or leave permanent
marks on me.

I'VE BEEN IN MY ON LITTLE WORLD OF BULLSHIT, WITH ALOT OF EMAILS.
AND HAVE NO IDEA, WTF. IS GOING ON HERE TONIGHT???
FRIENDS ARE NOT FRIENDS AND PPS ARE NOT TO DAMM COOL.
JUST TRYING TO WIPE AWAY THE SHT SO I CAN SEE WHO'S WHO??LOL

Understood I have been online most of the day and night and still
getting used to the people trying to figure out who is who. between all
the bashing going on here.

WELL, THANKS MAN, I AM STILL EING AND TRYING TO RESOLVE SOME
SITE MATTERS HERE...I JUST KNOW THAT WITH ALOT OF PPS COMING IN AND
PASSING THROUGH, WE ALL NEED TO HELP KEEP WHAT WE HAVE HERE
AS THE PLACE IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN, MOSTLY PEACEFUL AND FRIENDLY.
AND IT WILL, TAKE ALL OF US TO KEEP MAKING THAT WORK!!!
LATER, AMD BE REAL KEVIN,,,AND AH HELL, YOUR ALWAYS SMILING,LOL BYE..