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Topic: It just gets old...
Unique9586's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:51 PM
Ok, here's the problem. My honey makes fun of me, and just about everything I am, do, and like. He don't like totally bash me, no. Just "nit-picks" I guess you'd say. I know he don't mean anything by it. But it just gets so old and every now and again it does kind of hurt my feelings. I've told him I don't really 'preciate it, but I guess he don't take me seriously. What can I do?

DebbieJT's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:54 PM
do it back hun...and when he complains tell him now you know how it feels ...other than that give him a kick up the backside and out of the door

no photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:54 PM

Ok, here's the problem. My honey makes fun of me, and just about everything I am, do, and like. He don't like totally bash me, no. Just "nit-picks" I guess you'd say. I know he don't mean anything by it. But it just gets so old and every now and again it does kind of hurt my feelings. I've told him I don't really 'preciate it, but I guess he don't take me seriously. What can I do?
i've been there.after telling him it aint cool,and still does it,i'd show him the door.

no photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:55 PM
Take him as he is. You know he doesnt mean anything by it. And you have mentioned it to him. Doesnt seem like hes willing to change. Take it or leave it.

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:56 PM
Perhaps you need a new Honey???

I knew someone like that who thought it was just in fun,
they teased way too much.

If you want to live your life like that- well...
My guess is adventually you will have too much of it- if it does'nt stop! Tell him he is hurting you by doing that.
If he brushes it off- well theres your answer...

flowerforyou

mike1957's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:56 PM
flowerforyou SH IT can him and get a guy that really loves to be with you and whatever you do ,he just not sucure

canaryrx8's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:57 PM
meh, why put up with it? if you've told him you don't like it it's almost like he's antogonizing you, and no friendship or relationship needs that, ever.

johncarl's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:57 PM

do it back hun...and when he complains tell him now you know how it feels ...other than that give him a kick up the backside and out of the door
you got it rightlaugh laugh laugh

ADiamond's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:58 PM
Apparently your honey is very insecure of all that you are, do, say & like. He apparently needs to tear you done (little by little) to make himself feel good, bigger, and better. That is not love, appreciation, respect, or valuing you in anyway. The little things add up to be big ones......value yourself & if he cannot respect your wishes he is not a honey but SOUR MILK......Think about it? I am sure you deserve better..

Best wishes Que

mike1957's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:58 PM
bigsmile devil devil LIFE IS SHORT BE HAPPY laugh :heart: flowerforyou :tongue: happy laugh :wink: :smile: flowerforyou :heart:

Dukes71107's photo
Wed 01/16/08 01:59 PM
Simple... Turn it into a big huge fight, don't let him touch you for a few days..

Then he will see how much it bothers you.. .and the MAKING UP is always GREAT laugh

Amalie's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:00 PM


Ok, here's the problem. My honey makes fun of me, and just about everything I am, do, and like. He don't like totally bash me, no. Just "nit-picks" I guess you'd say. I know he don't mean anything by it. But it just gets so old and every now and again it does kind of hurt my feelings. I've told him I don't really 'preciate it, but I guess he don't take me seriously. What can I do?
i've been there.after telling him it aint cool,and still does it,i'd show him the door.


i think so too...just tell him how you feel!

Unique9586's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:02 PM
Other than this, things are great between us, probably the best relationship I've had to date. I just want him to realize that I'm a woman, I'm sensitive about my flaws, 'specially when I already know them.

Derekkye's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:02 PM

Ok, here's the problem. My honey makes fun of me, and just about everything I am, do, and like. He don't like totally bash me, no. Just "nit-picks" I guess you'd say. I know he don't mean anything by it. But it just gets so old and every now and again it does kind of hurt my feelings. I've told him I don't really 'preciate it, but I guess he don't take me seriously. What can I do?

Let him read this post. That should do it.

Derekkye's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:03 PM

do it back hun...and when he complains tell him now you know how it feels ...other than that give him a kick up the backside and out of the door

Too harsh. Relationships take a little work to get the kinks out..

Unique9586's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:03 PM

Simple... Turn it into a big huge fight, don't let him touch you for a few days..

Then he will see how much it bothers you.. .and the MAKING UP is always GREAT laugh


I think I like that idea. We haven't had a big fight yet. Thanks. happy

OklaSixpack's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:04 PM
Well, parts of this may sound a little harsh, but sit down with him and tell him, in a conversational, non-argumentive way, exactly what he is doing. Don't pick a fight doing it, and if he starts to argue/fight, just be quiet till you can talk again without being interrupted. If he really won't listen to what you are saying now, what will happen in 5, 10 or 17 years? I can tell you....it starts with a D....and it stinks. If he really doesn't realize, maybe he will try to change, if he does realize it and won't change, you have to decide if you want to put up with it. Nobody but you can make that decision. Good luck!
Jim

Unique9586's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:04 PM


Ok, here's the problem. My honey makes fun of me, and just about everything I am, do, and like. He don't like totally bash me, no. Just "nit-picks" I guess you'd say. I know he don't mean anything by it. But it just gets so old and every now and again it does kind of hurt my feelings. I've told him I don't really 'preciate it, but I guess he don't take me seriously. What can I do?

Let him read this post. That should do it.


LOL There's an idea, too. laugh

PATSFAN's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:05 PM
Shut him off!! if you know what I meanlaugh

Unique9586's photo
Wed 01/16/08 02:07 PM

Shut him off!! if you know what I meanlaugh


Yeah, but then I'd be suffering, too!

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