Literally just before my girlfriend left me in 1994 she asked me if I loved her. I felt that if I had said yes that it would only be because I didn't want her to leave me right there and then. My behaviour in the days leading up to that point did not imply (convey) that I was one in love with her. I was disrespectfull and selfish. She obviously didn't feel loved, and I didn't think it would be appropriate for words to replace what actions should have taken care of. I couldn't bring myself to answering yes - I felt as though it wouldn't be sincere. She did leave, and my heart broke. I'm not one to easily throw around the word love. I did love her. Our relationship rightfully ended not because I didn't love her, but because I didn't show it. I think the problem of showing love is something that tends to happen in long term relationships. My point is simply this: it's not whether or not you love someone, but rather whether or not they feel loved.: brokenheart: , but God has repaired it, Amen.

Dude why are you going back into the past Just move on

live and learn...ive been hurt and sure i hurt a few...it will be so much better if i ever get a chance.......things aint lookin to good now.....i do got a dog thank god for that....or i wouldnt have noone...

your never gonna get anywhere if your stuck in the past.You must look to the future.

Just using a past story to make a point.

Some have not experienced "true" love that ended I'm thinking

Well, it wouldn't have made much sense if he had referenced an event in his future to make his point.

True, Misty.

Awww Derekkle sometimes we have to learn our lessons the hard way. But now you know and so your next relationship will be better.

and to all that keep saying just move on, if you don't learn from the past how are you going to have a brighter future.

Thanks.

that is funny and a good point

I just like to think it (true love) was put on hold - it never ends.

Derek, thanks for sharing that good point truly...

I would like to think that also Derek

that is funny and a good point


Hey, Eh, how you been doin' man?

Ty dittos

I believe it's not put on hold, it does move on but never forgotten.

You're right. Actions speak louder than words. I believe what I see and observe much more than what comes out of a person's mouth.

As for "showing" you love someone? Well, all long term relationships have their ups and downs. It is like a rollercoaster and it is not going to be thrilling the whole ride. Sometimes, things get calm and content. There is nothing wrong with that. If you thrive on excitement, get creative with your partner and think of ways to liven or spice it up. You don't necessarily have to ignore, forget about them - or look outside the relationship for fulfillment, in my opinion. Your mileage may vary.

I'm glad you have healed over time. Gladder still that you have gained experience in life and learned valuable life lessons. Be well and Good Luck.

sometimes by going to our past...we learn a valuable lesson today. as he stated...he has been healed. so he has moved on, just sharing a thought. its appreciated here!

Its actions........not words.......but sometimes we like words too!