Do any of you have a gentle, but firm way of telling someone you aren't interested in dating (or meeting) them? I try to be really nice, but alot of guys don't seem to understand what I'm getting at. So then, when I have to resort to being blunt, they think I'm too abrasive and get all pissy. And I'm sure guys have the same problems with girls. Does anyone have any suggestions of things that work for them?

Just block them , then they can't message you ...

just tell them no thank's ! i dont think we will be good for each other !

Or lets be just friends.

Yup, that should work. And if you really want to be nice and dont mind lying, say you just started to go out with someone and you want to give that a real shot. Thats worked for me once

if i gotta tell them more than 2 times no..... i block them

Always be up front with the person first and for most.

If that doesn't work and there off this very site block them.

just tell them good bye and block them that is better than getting played

You would think people would get that! And I am the furthest from being a rude or confrontational person, so I hate the idea of having to block someone..

I don't think you have to be rude at all, just say something like...I just don't think you and I have that much in common. I know with some people you can't be nice to them..they just don't get it!! Those kind of people, I just tell them that I met someone and I want to see how it goes!

I'll tell you if you will go out with me !!!

sometimes you do what you got to do.

Which I guess is being more passive-agressive than anything... ;)

the only reason they are sayin you're being pissy or abrasive, is because they have been pushing the issue and they don't like the answer you gave to them!
Don't let it worry you too much! They will just move on to the next girl and do the same thing! And, they will forget about it in no time at all!

I understand that completely , but when you get harrassed and things of that nature , sometimes you just have to block them or something , there is no need of just taking what some dish out , but you will find as I have , most on here are very great people ...

Pfffft!!! You underestimate my self-conviction!

I don't have any, and I know no one has broken up with me nicely

buttons---- Will you go out with me? Will you go out with me? Will you go out with me ?

Absolutely. Some people can be VERY insistent, and refuse to take the "hint." I've had some e-mail me and try to talk me out of my own standards....that's awkward.

Usually, I've had pretty good luck with "I have a really good idea of the kind of person and situation I'm looking for, and I can see from your profile that you and I would have some serious areas of conflict."

Now it's even easier because I can just say "Sorry, I'm taken!"

If nothing else works, block them! The worst thing is to go on arguing with them for weeks and months....some will never give up....