If the old saying is true that "nice guys finish last" how do you get a girl to give you a chance. I mean i was talking to this one girl and we seemed to hit things off perfectly, now i am an open and honest person who has a good heart according to my friends. So why can i not get any girl to take a chance on me. I am no Brad Pitt, but i like myself and the way i look. Any advice??

post a picture of yourself would help!!!

You're not telling us enough.... You were talking to a girl in person or on here?

What do you mean take a chance? Did you ask her out?

Please tell us more and then we can give you the feedback you want... anything else is guessing, supposition, and conjecture that you should pretty much ignore!

keep respecting her and being there for her, even if the choices she makes don t fit "your agenda"

Where's your picture???

The key is confidence. Many guys who are trying to be nice guys shy away from being very confident because they worry that it will come off as being cocky or arrogant. It's a risk, for sure, that you'll sound like someone you're not...but more often it will simply be shown that you're a nice guy but one who is strong and confident. Women need to see that in a guy to be able to respect him, and eventually love him.
IMHO

Well this 1 man and I have been talking & been friends since about september 2007,he lives about 5 hours away thats what really has kept us from making it more.But he really & truely is a sweetheart & we just seem to connect on so many levels.I've been dating others as he has,but it just hasn't worked we end up telling each other what went wrong & its hard to believe that you can miss someone that you've never meet in person,but we do tend to miss each other..Well he's coming up here soon so we can finally meet.And see if there is something really & truely there like we already feel..So he may be the last one I need to date but he will have been worth the wait..

Nice guys are just as bad as jerks. Be a nice person instead.

There's an entire online community designed to help out guys like you.

One thing I can tell you right now is this:
If you are desperate to get a "chance" then you wil reek of desperation and come off as needy, creepy, and weird. If you are coming from a position of abundance and unneediness, however, you can allow yourself to express the best and most attractive qualities about yourself.
One of the pickup gurus once said that when you are approaching a woman, it is better to think of it as a chance for her to show you what kind of woman she is rather than a chance to "win her over" by trying to prove yourself to her.

Check this out:
http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/56322

very smart,kind & intelligent..so why are you not taken yet??

but you also gotta take into account the type of girl you are approaching.
no matter how nice and honest you are, there are always gonna be those girls who don't want a nice guy because he's
too safe,
too normal,
not dramatic enough,
not stylish enough,
not rich enough,
not showy enough...
so you have to recognize that, and not get caught up trying to please some chick that doesn't want a nice guy anyway.

Well i would like to post a pic of myself, but i have no equipment for that, and i just dont know if i want any of my friends to do that. As far as the person i approached, she was almost like my twin, we had so many things in common, it was just weird i had never met anyone like that before. Maybe i am just hopeless, idk.

Maybe having to much in common is the problem. Most of your friends have the same things in common. What about you is different and interesting. You have to bring some kind of different energy into tring to get this person. maybe introduce her to something differebt that you dont normally share with everyone. You can allways make her your friend, and she will turn you on to other girls.

That's true, but in the same aspect i am always open to new things but i am neither an aggressor and not always comfortable iniating things, i am very shy until people get to know me, then i can be myself I just am so confused right now, its to the point that i either just want to cry or bury myself into a bottle of alcohol.

Unless you start doing the thing that woman judge a man by, your going to be alone. You just have to get it started. No matter what a woman says, if she doesnt feel save and protected when she with you, your going to be alone. YOu get it started, after a while she is going to control the pace anyway. Use your balls while you still have them.

Well i still have them, but i guess i just dont remember how to be the aggresor. So many times i used to be and it alway shut me down, so i guess you could say i had it beaten out of me to the point i was afraid to do that. Some people say that i need to show another personality and forget the niceness, and the chivalry my parents taught me. But if i do that, then i feel like i am not being true to myself.

I think you should go dress shopping. lol

Yea i know, i can be a little of the feminine side, but its the way i am. I dont know how to be a bad ass or anything like that. Any and all advice is welcome and respected.

I WANT the nice guy. I date the opposite because breaking up with the nice guy is more painful. The bad boy (or whatever he's labeled nowadays) gives tons of reasons to justify the breakup. In my experience, the nice guy breaks up with you for silly minutia. Not that I’ll conclude my search for the nice guy. Just that some of you are unnecessarily picky (but any type of person can be picky, so never mind).