Hey all..
I have a question for you ...looking for some
input...

Have you ever started talking to someone...more
and more..finding more and more in common..started
calls on both ends that last hours??

I guess what I'm trying to ask is..with all we have in common and the attraction is there..Why does it scare the hell out of me???

any input?????

I dont know. But Im afraid like that when we actually finally meet attractions and feelings could be different. And you just never know really. Like a mystery in a way. I dont know.

Im scared all the time.
Its a good thing to be scared. Shows you care about it enough.

Awwwww thanks..you're a cutie

Thanks ..I'm glad I'm not alone in this...he really is
a awesome guy

so many reasons..for one thing, the more you invest emotionally in this person, the more you risk losing. You can't get hurt if you don't get close, and you have allowed yourself some vulnerability. So of course it is scary. It went from fun and games to , oh, I could get hurt. For another thing, sometimes people think that they want to be in a relationship but for complex reasons, they really aren't ready. So they get close and then back away because they get scared. Just a few ideas. I sort of remember back when I had feelings for someone..lo, those many years ago. In the beginning I was very afraid. Looking back, I should have trusted my instincts!!!

Been there too, It's hard sometimes because anybody can pretend to be anything on the phone or the computer; but meeting them is different. See if you can meet face to face and go from there.

I get scared too.. it scares the hell out of me the more i get to know them and the more i feel attracted to them.. like aahrimaan said it's a good scare that at least lets me know i care about them a lot.. and hey if it just ends up as friendship as it is now it'd be worth it.. something more would be amazing but hey friendship is amazing too..

Thanks so much...that helps shed some light..

Thanks so much...that helps shed some light..

I will tell you why it scares you! Chances are you had the same feeling's in a prior relationship that surrounded it. It ended badly, so when you start feeling those feeling's again the other one's creep in. You see, you have failed to let the past go. Thus, you must search your heart and your soul! Rid yourself of the past. To many people carry baggage and emotion's that reside from past relationship's into new one's and doom the next. Enuff Said by Doctor Curt

everybody gets scared about something no matter what it is, so if you feel you are the only person in the world you are not!

thanks deadpoet...

Go for it.

you're so right...I'm a little over a year out of my divorce..and this is the first man that I've bonded with...he's amazing..I feel like I can tell hm anything...we are planning on meeting very soon..

Thanks dr. curt...you're so right...

thanks....

hummmmmmm....

I think hikerchick has the right idea. The closer you become to someone you have an interest in, you invest more and more of your emotions, becoming more vulnerable. Essentially, the distance between you and another is directly correlated to your vulnerability. Emotionally, you are taking a risk, which could turn out to have a large payoff or a terrible one, and that can be extremely scary. It sounds like you're making a good investment with a suitable guy. I hope it works out well for you.

Thanks so much...