So is this person in the military?

yup, and he's most everything you've described. thing is, he's almost always been like that. it amazed me that he got married, didn't think he would till he was 30 something. then again..i don't think it'll last long and he'll cheat within the first year

Don't say that....you never know...maybe he found himself the 'right' girl...

This is the guy that wants you to move to Wa right?

one in the same. i've known him for like 8 or 9 years, he's like a brother.

and no..i'm right about the wife, he's going to cheat. i won't even tell you half the stuff i've heard from him let alone her, i mean she tried asking me what she should do about him looking up girls he knew on myspace. i told her to speak with him and i'm not comfortable dealing with that, had too many situations like that blow up at me. i know he'll cheat and i know they'll split, it's just a question of when

How old are they?

well that really sucks...hopefully she won't do it to him before he does it to her....

How long are you coming to visit for?

22-23

i doubt she'll cheat on him or do anything to **** up her situation. she does love him too. but like, she doesn't hardly work and he pays for everything. her family is in chicago...etc... she'd be pretty screwed if she left him, at least for a bit

visit? oh, i did that this summer. i'd be staying, at least for a year or so. might make it to canada after that

Well maybe she needs to find new friends of her own, and perhaps get a job...
She definitely needs to not try and sweat the stupid **** he is doing, because you know what...he will do it if he wants to, and there is nothing that she can do or say about it....she needs to be more independent, and do things for herself....thats just my 2 cents on the matter...

Just come to Washington when it isn't raining so much....haha

Let us know when you are in town, we all can go out for some drinks or something!

the rain really doesn't bother me. when i was there, it wasn't bad at all.

what's bad is england. i was there for a week, it rained like 5 of the days almost nonstop. not heavy rain, but still

and yes, she needs a life. but her having a life isn't going to stop what's coming. it's not just the myspace thing, that's nothing compared to what i've been told

well that sucks...you're friend sounds like a real asshole if you ask me...lol

Why get married in the first place?

i'm honestly not sure. during his last relationships the only way to keep him from cheating was for him to not go anywhere.

he's a "player" type. good with words, good with dancing, bad with relationship stuff. really, none of that effects me too much. i'm not a girl, ya know? i just wouldn't be ok with him dating anyone i considered a friend.

and if ya meet him, shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!

and if ya meet him, shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!

I wouldn't say anything...I don't know anything!

Yeah, I've met plenty of playa's...and really they just need to meet someone who will not put up with their ****...and tell them how it really is...bust them down a notch or two...hehe

I'm sure he has good qualities elsewhere, its just not in relationships right now, I don't think he is ready to be in one, he is just better playing the field...

hey I will be back in about 10 minutes

ok

i agree with everything you said. thing is, you can't bust him down a few notches. he'll just let it go and be ok the next day. he was put through all kinds of crap as a child and life doesn't phase him now

i mean, when he was 9 his dad made him live in the woods for a week. he had a .22 rifle with 10 bullets, a piece of string with a fish hook tied on, and a piece of flint

he said on one of those nights he stared at the stars and vowed to be a better man than his father

ok I am back.....


No wonder your friend is messed up

ok I am back.....


No wonder your friend is messed up

well, that's not all. i know of lots more. like how he was put in a church school, a school where he spent half the time doing yard work. the other half was spent learning about god...