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Topic: Being Freinds with girls
lilrayrayman's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:05 PM
I am actively seeking a female to be my first girlfreind and my freinds keep telling to me to Hit it off with "new" girls as freinds and try to get used to being freinds with them and hanging out with them but I feel that being freinds with girls is "annoying" or "awkward" or simply not enough to satisfy me.

I like girls and everything but for some reason being freinds with girs seems "cheesy" or "cheap" to me especially seince I get butterflies in my stomach and I sense up around girls I find attractive. I keep thinking about opening up to them but I cant find something to say. or worse I keep thinking about sleeping with them. or loosing my virginity in a one night stand. Everytime I ask out a girl I get reljected or they want to "be freinds" or "get to know me" or "take it slow" or theier "busy" or they have a Boyfreind.

I am so frustrated! I just want someone to Be with/hangout and possibly sleep with.

My freinds keep tryting to set me up with Cute and freindly single girls and I tense up and try to avoid them or worse start "stuttering" or going "UUUUH" Or "Bu...Bu...Bu..."
And whenever they want to Hang out with me I try to get them to LEAVE or go away because I don't know how to talk to them or I find them to be "annoying" or not worth my time seince I can't go to bed with them or get a date from them.

I don't like to talk to girls or be seen with girls in front of my parents. I always try to avoid girls or other I know somehow when i am in a store because I feel embarrassed by them for some reason.


MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:05 PM

I am actively seeking a female to be my first girlfreind and my freinds keep telling to me to Hit it off with "new" girls as freinds and try to get used to being freinds with them and hanging out with them but I feel that being freinds with girls is "annoying" or "awkward" or simply not enough to satisfy me.

I like girls and everything but for some reason being freinds with girs seems "cheesy" or "cheap" to me especially seince I get butterflies in my stomach and I sense up around girls I find attractive. I keep thinking about opening up to them but I cant find something to say. or worse I keep thinking about sleeping with them. or loosing my virginity in a one night stand. Everytime I ask out a girl I get reljected or they want to "be freinds" or "get to know me" or "take it slow" or theier "busy" or they have a Boyfreind.

I am so frustrated! I just want someone to Be with/hangout and possibly sleep with.

My freinds keep tryting to set me up with Cute and freindly single girls and I tense up and try to avoid them or worse start "stuttering" or going "UUUUH" Or "Bu...Bu...Bu..."
And whenever they want to Hang out with me I try to get them to LEAVE or go away because I don't know how to talk to them or I find them to be "annoying" or not worth my time seince I can't go to bed with them or get a date from them.

I don't like to talk to girls or be seen with girls in front of my parents. I always try to avoid girls or other I know somehow when i am in a store because I feel embarrassed by them for some reason.


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Shaden's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:07 PM
You'll get past your shyness.

no photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:09 PM
Just talk to them like you would your guy friends....bigsmile

irad8you's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:09 PM
You will figure it out.

klugman's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:10 PM
Being friends is the start to any great relationship.

madamx7316's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:10 PM
unless you have an unlimited supply of cootie spray...be careful! :tongue:

looook's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:10 PM
Edited by looook on Fri 01/11/08 05:12 PM
Taking some sleeping pills next time when you see a girl, if you really want to sleep.

It is clear from your post that you are only interest in getting into girls pants, you see the thing is that should be the last thing in your mind, because it will come naturally if you let the relationship develop, otherwise visit a hooker or something.

lilrayrayman's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:13 PM

Being friends is the start to any great relationship.


It feels "cheesy" But there's no sex! I want to loose my virginity lol. noway

PATSFAN's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:13 PM

unless you have an unlimited supply of cootie spray...be careful! :tongue:
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justafunguy's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:13 PM
it will come.just relax,girls going to talk anyway.just follow along they will lead the conversation

legman99's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:23 PM
Hey, nothing wrong with being shy. I was the same way. Be yourself, be honest, respect the ladies and yourself and it will eventually come together for you. It's hard, and frustrating, but you'll need to be patient. It'll happen! happy

Dragoness's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:28 PM

Hey, nothing wrong with being shy. I was the same way. Be yourself, be honest, respect the ladies and yourself and it will eventually come together for you. It's hard, and frustrating, but you'll need to be patient. It'll happen! happy


Great advice here, hope you heed it. You are a little overly concerned with losing it, cool your jets and talk to a girl as a friend. How is a girl going to feel comfortable with you if you can't feel comfortable with her???????

Totage's photo
Fri 01/11/08 05:29 PM
Some people can't be friends with the opposite sex, others can.

lilrayrayman's photo
Fri 01/11/08 06:15 PM

Some people can't be friends with the opposite sex, others can.


I can but It seems like something is missing.

Totage's photo
Fri 01/11/08 06:17 PM
When you're around them, live in the moment, try not to worry about things, just focus on the moment.

lilrayrayman's photo
Fri 01/11/08 06:55 PM

When you're around them, live in the moment, try not to worry about things, just focus on the moment.


I'll do that.glasses

newwaters's photo
Fri 01/11/08 08:16 PM

I am actively seeking a female to be my first girlfreind and my freinds keep telling to me to Hit it off with "new" girls as freinds and try to get used to being freinds with them and hanging out with them but I feel that being freinds with girls is "annoying" or "awkward" or simply not enough to satisfy me.

I like girls and everything but for some reason being freinds with girs seems "cheesy" or "cheap" to me especially seince I get butterflies in my stomach and I sense up around girls I find attractive. I keep thinking about opening up to them but I cant find something to say. or worse I keep thinking about sleeping with them. or loosing my virginity in a one night stand. Everytime I ask out a girl I get reljected or they want to "be freinds" or "get to know me" or "take it slow" or theier "busy" or they have a Boyfreind.

I am so frustrated! I just want someone to Be with/hangout and possibly sleep with.

My freinds keep tryting to set me up with Cute and freindly single girls and I tense up and try to avoid them or worse start "stuttering" or going "UUUUH" Or "Bu...Bu...Bu..."
And whenever they want to Hang out with me I try to get them to LEAVE or go away because I don't know how to talk to them or I find them to be "annoying" or not worth my time seince I can't go to bed with them or get a date from them.

I don't like to talk to girls or be seen with girls in front of my parents. I always try to avoid girls or other I know somehow when i am in a store because I feel embarrassed by them for some reason.




You may have an anxiety 'disorder'. Basically, you could benefit with some guided instruction.

What you feel is a natural part of growing up. Some people get stuck emotionally even though they continue to develop intellectually.

My advice is to seek help, though I don't mean some formal shrink. A talk or two with your pastor may be all you need.

In the meantime look deeper into their eyes than their breasts.

Remington1857's photo
Sat 01/12/08 11:18 PM
Go to your local library and get books on reading body language, since 92% of communcation is non-verbal, what you are saying may be out of sinc with what your body language is telling the opposite sex. This also goes with charisma, for some it comes easy, for others it is learned. Just as with everything in life, these are new skills that you will have to master. Now go forth grasshopper...

As for "actively seeking a girlfried to lose your cherry" noway If you're that desperate, seek a hooker... Personally I'd be worried about STD's...

First learn to be the friend that you are seeking... It's not that hard, and the rest will come easy...

no photo
Sun 01/13/08 06:22 PM
detatch yourself from the unforseeable (spelling?) consequences

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