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Topic: Pull the plug?
cpt_johhny Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 469	Wed 01/09/08 05:43 PM
I (like most people here) need advice. I have a friendship that is basically on life support, and I am considering termination. The only thing holding me back is the history I have had with her. Im supposed to meet her tommorow at the mall to talk things over. What would be the most logical, if not practical, if not right, decision? Or am I just making a mountain out of a molehill?

uk_bloke Joined Tue 12/04/07 Posts: 774	Wed 01/09/08 05:46 PM
there is only 2 people that can make the decision, and that aint us! If ur asking wether WE think u should end it, then i think you already know the answer and are just trying to justify it to yourself.

fastlinnie Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 1993	Wed 01/09/08 05:47 PM
FOLLOW YOUR HEART

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Wed 01/09/08 05:47 PM
I would need to know WHY the friendship is on life support. Also, how long have you been friends? Did she do something unforgivable? Or have you just grown in different directions?

KELLYLS30 Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 368	Wed 01/09/08 05:47 PM
that all depends on the circumstances......i terminated a friendship with my best friend of 4 years after i found out she what she was really out for.....money...everybody's. she refused to talk to me when her "boyfriend" was in the picture, but when he would leave, she would come crying....i told her to take it somewhere else.. everybody's situation is different, and if you have honestly had enough, then it is best to walk away.

canaryrx8 Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 361	Wed 01/09/08 05:48 PM
FOLLOW YOUR GUT fixed!

briank66 Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 2335	Wed 01/09/08 05:48 PM
I would need to know WHY the friendship is on life support. Also, how long have you been friends? Did she do something unforgivable? Or have you just grown in different directions? You read my puny mind

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Wed 01/09/08 05:49 PM
I (like most people here) need advice. I have a friendship that is basically on life support, and I am considering termination. The only thing holding me back is the history I have had with her. Im supposed to meet her tommorow at the mall to talk things over. What would be the most logical, if not practical, if not right, decision? Or am I just making a mountain out of a molehill? A shared history can be a wonderful thing. But in my opinion, that, by itself, is a poor thing to justify maintaining a friendship. That's just inertia. There must be a basis, an expectation, a desire on both parts, for the friendship to continue to grow and evolve in the future. You say, "The only thing holding me back is the history I have had with her." If that's the case, what future do you see in this friendship? That might be a good place to start the conversation with her.

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Wed 01/09/08 05:53 PM
I would need to know WHY the friendship is on life support. Also, how long have you been friends? Did she do something unforgivable? Or have you just grown in different directions? You read my puny mind Now THAT'S scary!!

cpt_johhny Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 469	Wed 01/09/08 05:55 PM
I would need to know WHY the friendship is on life support. Also, how long have you been friends? Did she do something unforgivable? Or have you just grown in different directions? Its on lifesupport because we have "grown in different directions" We hardly hang out any more. Its only been a friendship for about eight months, frankly I like mine to last years. She hasnt done anything unforgivable, it would take a lot to do that.

cpt_johhny Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 469	Wed 01/09/08 05:57 PM
I (like most people here) need advice. I have a friendship that is basically on life support, and I am considering termination. The only thing holding me back is the history I have had with her. Im supposed to meet her tommorow at the mall to talk things over. What would be the most logical, if not practical, if not right, decision? Or am I just making a mountain out of a molehill? A shared history can be a wonderful thing. But in my opinion, that, by itself, is a poor thing to justify maintaining a friendship. That's just inertia. There must be a basis, an expectation, a desire on both parts, for the friendship to continue to grow and evolve in the future. You say, "The only thing holding me back is the history I have had with her." If that's the case, what future do you see in this friendship? That might be a good place to start the conversation with her. Ill ask her that

uk_bloke Joined Tue 12/04/07 Posts: 774	Wed 01/09/08 06:01 PM Edited by uk_bloke on Wed 01/09/08 06:02 PM
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