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Topic: I need help. This is not working.
backdock1's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:08 PM
So here's my dilema. I've been on this site for about two months and have got hardly any responses. Four to be specific. Now what is it about my post. Do I look like a serial killer, freak, ugly, loser, or just not fit for anybody to respond to emails and I've yet to have someone actually talk to me on a IM. They're always declined. Ladies, this is like shooting fish in a barrel for you. Being cruel or not answering email is not cool.

Help. I need someone to help me make my post seem more appealing.

peachiegirl28's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:09 PM
try getting in the forums and posting so people get to know you...if you post they will comelaugh laugh laugh laugh flowerforyou

beaporwoll's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:10 PM
Listen to peachiegirl

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Tue 01/08/08 10:15 PM

So here's my dilema. I've been on this site for about two months and have got hardly any responses. Four to be specific. Now what is it about my post. Do I look like a serial killer, freak, ugly, loser, or just not fit for anybody to respond to emails and I've yet to have someone actually talk to me on a IM. They're always declined. Ladies, this is like shooting fish in a barrel for you. Being cruel or not answering email is not cool.

Help. I need someone to help me make my post seem more appealing.


You have 3 forum posts. In my experience, the only way to get noticed here is to establish a presence in the forums. It takes time, and a lot of exposure.

When I first signed up, I tried writing to some of the locals. I NEVER got a single reply. So I said screw it and just started posting. After a few months, they started writing to me, and they still do. And I never write to anybody first. I get plenty of e-mail here now, from people all over the world. Still NONE from anyone local, but that's OK because I'm not looking for a relationship now.

I think the forums give people a chance to get to know you, to get to know about your thoughts and opinions, to find out what matters to you and what it is you're looking for. It's a learning process, and it's not an overnight thing. It takes time but it may very well be worth it.


Sportie2's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:15 PM
:smile: Hi...Your in here now...keep up the hard work now :wink: drinker

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Tue 01/08/08 10:15 PM
dude listen to her, 2months and 3 posts, not a way to get noticed.

Pete026's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:17 PM
peachiegirl is right as always flowerforyou flowerforyou drinker drinker

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Tue 01/08/08 10:18 PM
Sorry Bro but posting wont really help you either. This site is terrible as a dating site probably due to the fact its free, people post fake pics of themselves and little moderation. Its a good chat site though. Ive met no one here either for my location so dont feel bad..Try another site geared to just dating Bro and maybe u'll do better

Dragoness's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:19 PM

So here's my dilema. I've been on this site for about two months and have got hardly any responses. Four to be specific. Now what is it about my post. Do I look like a serial killer, freak, ugly, loser, or just not fit for anybody to respond to emails and I've yet to have someone actually talk to me on a IM. They're always declined. Ladies, this is like shooting fish in a barrel for you. Being cruel or not answering email is not cool.

Help. I need someone to help me make my post seem more appealing.




I looked at your profile, it is kinda vague and you state you are only looking for fun...leads one to believe you are just out for sex. I did not get alot of information from your profile about the type of man you are either. HTH

Dragoness's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:20 PM
Oh yea and I know others said it but post in the forums so people will get to know you. There are lots of people who do not post but they read the forums so it helps either way.

backdock1's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:26 PM
Hmmh, I will try the forums. Within minutes bunches of people see me. OK, now I feel better already. I was having a lonely minute. I live alone and don't have pets or roommates and this big house does get pretty quiet sometimes.

Thanks all!

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Tue 01/08/08 10:31 PM

Hmmh, I will try the forums. Within minutes bunches of people see me. OK, now I feel better already. I was having a lonely minute. I live alone and don't have pets or roommates and this big house does get pretty quiet sometimes.

Thanks all!

DUDE, YOU LOOK LIKE a YOUNG Yule Brenner, the babes loved him...

Just keep posting, and posting and posting and posting and posting and posting and posting..........LOL

THAT IS the secret!!!!
Well it HELPS, to have a GREAT sense of humor...and smile alot,lol... GOOD LUCK!!!!!drinker smokin

backdock1's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:35 PM
A young Yule Brenner. I like that!

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Tue 01/08/08 10:37 PM
well, in my experience people are skittish about these things and often (consciously or no) take cues from others about what is/is not attractive/fun/interesting. You might benefit from a few profile pics showing you having fun with other people.

of course, I'm talking out my ass so ymmv :)

derbyprojustin's photo
Tue 01/08/08 10:44 PM
I'm not sure if posting alot really works but i'm sure it does help. I been here a week and posted 100 times and only 40 people have viewed my profile. I think the uniform scares people! I look meanmad I think I'm gonna try putting up some new pics as well.bigsmile

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Wed 01/09/08 12:19 AM

So here's my dilema. I've been on this site for about two months and have got hardly any responses. Four to be specific. Now what is it about my post. Do I look like a serial killer, freak, ugly, loser, or just not fit for anybody to respond to emails and I've yet to have someone actually talk to me on a IM. They're always declined. Ladies, this is like shooting fish in a barrel for you. Being cruel or not answering email is not cool.

Help. I need someone to help me make my post seem more appealing.
I've been here a few months too.. We are about the same age.. the only difference is, I have posted... Not highly prolific compared to many.. but posted.

So far our individual experiences are on opposite ends of the spectrum.

I don't have an answer for ya... Other then listen to what the women are saying to you, both here and in any emails you are getting.

LLH5's photo
Wed 01/09/08 12:46 AM

A young Yule Brenner. I like that!


I loved Yulelove

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Wed 01/09/08 12:54 AM
four responses out of six post id say thats a good percentage ....smokin

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Wed 01/09/08 12:55 AM
im thinking about shaving my head ...........NOT...laugh

Puffins1958's photo
Wed 01/09/08 02:54 PM
Hello and welcome to JSH, I hope you have a great time here...
It's soooo much fun!!!! Enjoy the forums...
I hope you find what your searching for...

flowerforyou

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