First off we miss everyone we connect with at some level, that does not constitute a healthy relationship so you need to do some soul searching on that level. If he came off as a jerk and you attract jerks, don't make excuses for him. AND for heavens sake don't apologize if you did nothing wrong, sheesh, women and the apologies for doing nothing wrong, if I had a dime for every woman who apologized for doing nothing wrong, I would be rich....lol.

Seriously if you see it as a warning whatever his reason was for doing it heed it. Mentally and physically abusive men always have a reason why they do it, it does not make it right.

Okay. I am taking a safe route. I just text messaged him, "One crazy lady is thinking about you." I understand a lot of men communicate anger when they are upset. I have never been in a physically abusive relationship, mainly because he would probably die shortly afterwards, and I'd be in jail hoping someone would take care of my kitties.

So, now we see what happens. I have given him a small chance, we see how he responds. If he gets all yucky and controlling, then it's the 2 strikes and you're out. If he stays calm and communicative, I take it from there.

Okay gang, I'm signing out. This forum seems to have puttered down to nothing.

Thank you all so much!

I wish all this stuff didn't bring so much pain as well.

I only used that phrase because up above you said you have been known to be attracted to 'jerks'....we all have our own definitions of what's acceptable and what is not for ourselves.
(raising his voice inappropriately? not listening to your choices and respecting them?)
Only you can define that for you...just be cautious!
Good luck!

Well, I hope things work out for you, just becareful. Don't get yourself hurt.

didn't you go out with him for like, a weekend? How attached could you have gotten?