Man, it's been a very rough and hard time. There's alot to be said about marriage. Everyone seems to know all the answers looking from the outside in. One thing I can say about relationships, go with your gut instincts. If something feels wrong, then it probably is. Don't play mind games with someone because you are miserable in your own flesh. If you are not in love with someone anymore, be a woman/man and let your partner know instead of playing games. It takes a big person with integrity to keep it real. No relationship is gonna work without God's presence. If you let outside influences ruin your marriage cause you feel what your partner wasn't doing was enough, maybe you should look at yourself in the mirror and ask why. nobody is perfect. I feel completely free of drama, narcissistic, toxic childish behavior, deceitfulness, untrustworthy tendencies etc. When you remove yourself from a bad situation, everything else falls into place. Remember. God doesn't like ugly, so understand how the fruits of the spirit works and stop worrying bout what everyone thinks