ok been talking to this guy online for over a year and a half,never met offline.keep missing each other online but always end up talkin again. we always run into each other on different dating sites too so what do u guys think i should do? we just started talking again tonight by the way

Either fate is trying to tell you something by having the two of you always "bumping into each other" or he's following you around. I'm going to assume he's not psycho and instead suggest to listen to what fate's trying to tell you, and flat out ask him/plan to meet and see if there's more there. One way or the other, you'll at least find out. BOL!

ask him to go camping........

If you two get along well, then set up a meeting somewhere. No use putting it off any longer.

he is not psycho. well he actually did ask me to go to his friends new years eve party with him. he asked me that a few hours ago

Well there............you..............go. Perfect!

I say meet him, see what happens, you'll never know, unless you do. Good Luck

Throw caution to the wind. With 18 months of correspondence you should both know each other quite well already.

If your having these thoughts deep down inside you've already answered the question whether to meet or not

he also didn't talk to me for awhile because i kept giving this other guy a chance and he knew how this guy was treating me and didn't like it and didn't like that i kept giving this guy chances so he chose not to talk to me until i figured things out. i finally ended things with him for good back in may

its too cold to go camping

Ending things with the other guy sounds like there's now nothing holding you back with this guy... provided things ARE ended with the other guy!

things are ended with my ex and will stay that way. honestly my ex emailed me today wishing me a merry xmas but i didnt email him back

Well, if nothing's stopping you. . . .

Well you really need to meet BEFORE the New Year's eve party. The first meeting should always be somewhere there's an opportunity for either party to cut things short if needed or desired. Sure you've chatted a lot online but as they say, the proof of the pudding is in the eating. You don't REALLY know anything about this guy until you meet him and talk a little in person.

But then again he seemed to show some common sense and maturity while waiting for you to show some common sense and maturity...

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yeah i know that. have also spent hours talking to him on the phone and texting

I've played the online dating game a lot off and on over the years. I've heard all kinds of stories - tragic and hysterical - about what people believed from emails and snail mails and phone calls. The reality is you don't know diddly about someone until you meet them in person, interact with them on a regular basis, and see how they relate to others around them.

If you meet this guy before the party what's the worst that could happen? You discover he's lying to you about everything and the party is off? Or he's a wonderful guy and you've spent a little extra time finding that out?

If you DON'T meet this guy beforehand what's the worst that could happen? Yeah, I think you know where that is going. Imagine spending your New Year's eve trapped on a date with some @$$hole.

From what you've said the scenario will probably play out that he's a great guy and you'll be a little more comfortable when you meet for the SECOND time for the party.

We never go to the grave regretting the chances we did take, only the opportunities we let slip by.

i know u dont really know much about a person until u meet them

Well Stormy the question then really is:

Why WOULDN'T you meet this guy?

Is the old relationship still too fresh? Do you need more healing time? Are you too busy with the kids for now? Does he live too far away? Is there something about this guy that makes you hesitate?

Or are you just scared of taking that first step? Maybe making a change? Are you looking for some help pushing yourself out of your comfort zone?

no i dont need more time to heal. he lives about 10mins from me