I AM UGLY!! I AM FAT!!

These are the terms used to make people feel bad about themselves for being who they are and not falling into a mold. This consumer society ruins peoples lives and their perceptions of themselves. I have tried no to believe these things about myself, but I have to face the facts: In a society where people are told how the feel and what they are attracted to by the television and magazines, I AM UGLY AND I AM FAT. Why fight it anymore.

I AM INTELLIGENT!! I AM SWEET!! I AM A GENTLEMAN!! I AM CARING!!

Why don't these things matter. Why doesn't anyone give a f**k about these attributes.

My ex-wife gained a lot of weight and had skin problems because of a medication that she was on. I truly loved her. I swear, I didn't even notice the weight. She was always the most beautiful person to me. Well, I supported her through college, paid for her to go to graduate school, paid for her apartment in England. paid for her utilities, food etc..

Well, she lost her weight, her skin cleared up, and she cheated on me with some "cool" college guy she met at a party. A man that could "turn her on in ways that I never could". AFTER SIX YEARS OF MARRIAGE!!

People are S**T!!!!!!!!!! There is no loyalty. I hate this life. I need to get away from everything for good.

Sorry for the rant, I have no family or friends to talk to. I gave everything up for my "happy" marriage.

I hope everyone has a Merry Tuesday.

DUDE, I was married for 9 years. After putting her thru college she cheated on me. So I kicked her out. I just got engaged last month after being with a girl the past 8 months. I would do anything for her and her two children. Two weeks ago she left me, and I found out last week she was cheating on me as well.

But here I still am. I realize that I am a good man, and someday my true love will arrive.

Dont lose heart.


Merry Christmas !!!

Please don't give up that easily. You are a charming sweet guy and anyone in their right might would be lucky to have you. Work through the anger-it takes time. Then know that there are good women out here that would jump at the chance to have a man like you.

Awww Sorry for your heartache.

I dig your MANTRA, "I AM INTELLIGENT!! I AM SWEET!! I AM A GENTLEMAN!! I AM CARING!!"

Rant my friend, there are NO JUDGEMENTS HERE

It's been months of me trying not to be angry. You know, I always thought that money would bring me happiness. Now that I am comfortable, it just gives more reasons for people to lie to you.

You will Pass through this stage...believe me...You Rant all you want, thats the best way of getting it out your system...

wow vikings. sorry to hear you have no friends or family inwhich to share the season. I trust that your pain is true and that you feel as though you are somehow neglected by others of your positive attributes. One thing that I have learned as I have crashed and burned from a marriage and a 2 year relationship is that you may possess those qualities that you see in yourself, but your not allowing others to see them as you may mask them by having a long face or such. We have all been there and doubted ourselves, but one thing is for sure, you need to pick up yourself and find the truth in yourself that you have good qualities first because no one will see them unless you see them first. I wish you a happy christmas day and a happy new year, but thats all we can do is wish for you, you have to do the rest. Take care and smile. You will feel better if you change the face.

You are all VERY sweet. It is really helping.

Thank You.

I will check this several times for a pick me up.

yo dude.... It happens to the best of us... After 18 years of marraige , 8 years ago dec 18th my beautiful wife who i loved with all my heart told me she didn't "LIKE" me anymore....i would have rather her say she didn't love me... She had a younger "boy" friend.... well she is alone now he got what he wanted..... I say Merry Christmas ... Life goes on...

Thankyou, and I do agree with everything you said, but even my wife has said, and I quote, "I have the greatest husband anyone could want. Many women would be lucky to have a husband like mine, but I don't want him."

I have never had a problem with self perception before. I can do anything I put my mind to. Except read people's true intentions.

As a Dear Friend of mine who beat cancer says.

"Every day above ground is a good day."

When you feel like your world is falling apart and crashing in just stop and smell the roses.

You can't change the past cause it is done however you can change your future. So when you are down and you feel like your world is crashing in take a deep breath things will get better even though you don't feel like it right now.

Man, I feel you pain. I was married for 13 years and my x cheated 2 times on me. Ater a long period I found what I thought was my soulmate we were together for around 3 years this past summer. Found out she opened credit cards in my name.....she lied to me, stole from me, then to top it off found out she had been cheating on me also. So believe me I feel your pain....why do nice guys finish last?

Does your heart ever stop hurting?

Man, that does suck. I have no idea why nice guys have such a hard time. I think being nice is a sign of weakness, so it opens you to cunning people. I don't want to change though. Caring about others and being sensitive to others feelings is part of my soul. I have lost everything. I won't lose my soul.

Hang in there friend....things have to get better. At least we have to keep our head up and believe in ourselves. We will get through this.

never stops hurting... you mask it..... this time of the year is really hard..... I ran away after my divorce.... went to california for 6 years.... came back to Connecticut...Met a wonderful lady on line... taking our time... so does the hurt ever stop..... hopeful soon.... I reall like this new women in my life.

Sorry to hear aboutAll that The carma thing will make it her way.And yours. You will find the one for.Don't give up!!

It takes takes a while to find trust again after you have been hurt. I was married almost twenty years and that was one thing which was important to our marriage was trust. He passed away five years ago. Dating is really hard and I have yet to find a person I truly trust like I did my husband.
Hang in there. There is someone out there for you. Besides hunt can be fun. When I go on I date I focus on just having fun and it is right the details will workout later. So far I haven't had much luck with the details yet, so I don't worry about it.
Good luck,
Iamviv

It might take some time for you heart to heal. you will get through this though. We have all had one form of heartache or another, I know I've had my share. To a better year, 2008 will be better for all of us....

viking, My ex girlfriend cheated on me with her abusive ex husband , I did everything for her including letting him use one of my trucks when his was repo'd. She told me besides her dad i am the greatest man she ever knew, she tells me to this day she misses me. But she made a choice it was her choice they are back together till he hits her again or threatens her or she will stay and take it. I o not hate her for it its her life her choices, and now it is time for my life and my choices. And for now I choose me I only need to make me happy right now that may change but until it does its all about me. So keep your head up and keep getting up every morning, show them you maybe hurt but you will go on. Life is full of challanges these are just a few more