its simple this site is a tool, you put your profile up and then you start searching. the easiest way is to make your search criteria vague and then see who looks at your profile, then you can add more stricter search perameters to your search, my advice is to also use your mutual mauch function on here, you have to pursue these ladies, they aren't coming to you, this is no different than searching around town offline, you still have to approach these ladies, so no cheesy pick up lines, that still doesn't work, even on here