Hey everyone!

I have been single since September, but dating since November. I have not been single for Christmas or New Years for 10 years. In those 10 years I had 3 relationships. With that said...

I am a single father with 2 BEAUTIFUL children. A boy 2.5 years and a girl 8 months old. With that said...

With out going into the long story my children are HALF siblings. Now the issue is finding a woman who can accept that. Maybe I am going around the issue the wrong way? I usually don't offer the information unless asked. But lately when I meet women I tell them that and they don't talk to me again...So ladies WTF am I doing wrong... I am so depressed that I am spending my favorite time of year alone...What should I do about this? And are there ladies who can accept that my past is my past, but I love my children regardless?

Jay.

my kids are half syblings and there shouldnt be a problem with that, as if i was dating someone that his kids came from different relationships it wouldnt bother me

maybe they dont want the hassle of two diffrent mothers to deal w or maybe they realize what a long term commitment you have to your children.i'm not sure why just guessing

Jay...

Your children are a part of you. Any woman that can't accept that is not worth having. Your children should come first. Holidays are hard to be alone, most of us know that. It's not the first year that matters, but all the years to come that will matter to you the most. Enjoy spending time with your children, all else will fall into place for you in the future...

I only have 1, but I know what it's like to spend christmas alone. My ONLY family is my daughter, and I have to give her to her mom at 2 o'clock on christmas, leaving me absolutely alone. My advice to you? Get some booze and go to bed early. And get used to it.

you think thats bad.....


try being a single parent.........


and ugly...........

Wow... 5 replies already...

My children are my priority. I love both of them. I just seen my daughter for the first time in 3 months.

I tell everyone I date that the issues I have with their mothers is MY issue and YOU will not be brought in the middle of it. My past is my past and I will deal with it. I try as much as I can to keep it separate, but the ladies around here don't want to see that. It's not like I have been dating much... Since November I have been on... let's see... 1 date.

As for the boozing thing... Um... No. I don't drink.

No sh!t. How long was it between women for you, Jay? A month or so?

Then start smoking pot.

NO!

if a woman didnt want to be with me because i have a son thats 16 years old all i can say is that she just missed out on two great guys and that the loss is hers ...i mean if a woman likes you what a petty reason not to be with you ,,,obviously not the right person...

i've been single now for over a year and before her it was 7 years.... i've spent many many holidays alone, i spent christmas of 04 in a bar drinking until they closed at 6pm went home and went to sleep at 8pm. i spend my birthdays the same way, new years i stay home and watch tv. this year i'm looking at spending those holidays alone once agian.



and ya know, i wouldn't have it any other way.............

suddenly doesn't look so bad huh?

Jay, I think maybe you need to share less information about you kids parentage at first. Don't bring up the issues with the ex's. If the ladies you are dating are worth you time, then they are going to accept you for you and your children. If they have a problem with you kids, then you don't need them. Maybe you should just take some time to step back and collect yourself. You don't need a woman around to make you whole. Be strong for you kids, and yourself. Stand alone for a while. Don't rush into another relationship just because you don't want to be alone for the holidays. The holidays are for you kids and family. Good luck.

Why are you even referring to your kids as halfs? They are both yours and they are siblings, that should be the end of it.
Maybe you are just meeting the wrong type of women. If you tell them about it, and they leave, then let them go and don't think about them again.

Jay, I know it's hard being alone, this is my 3rd holliday with out some one special to share it with. It know it's not easy, just be thankful you have your kids. surround yourdelf with friends and family. Have a Merry Christmas

It should not matter if they are half or whole. I have 3 boys by 2 diff. dads. Who cares.

Jay,

Think the first thing you should do is SLOW DOWN. You seem to be more worried about you than your children. Worried about finding someone else, before you are at ease with being alone, tends to show a NEEDY personality. Were your relatinoships marriage or relationships? Why did things not work out? Have you considered finding a group for single dads & working on YOU, before jumping into anther situation.
I applaud you in being upfront about your family, but think there are some other issues that might be raising red flags with the ladies. Just an old man's thoughts. Feel free to contact me.