Everything is ok in love and war , is it true

No

In war, no such thing as a fair fight.
In love, not fair to lie, cheat or steal.

No.. and whoever said this probably had never been to war or had never been in love.

the phrase is actually

all is fair in love and war


Cervantes' Don Quixote, 1620:

Love and warre are all one [Spanish - el amor y la guerra son vna misma cosa]: and as in warre it is lawful to use sleights and stratagems to overcome the enemy: So in amorous strifes and competencies, Impostures and juggling tricks are held for good, to attaine to the wished end.

is prolly the most fleshed out version of it.

in the novel The Relapse, or Myrtle Bank 1789:

Tho' this was a confounded lie, my friend, ‘all is fair in love and war’.
it was finally said as it is known today

Good research, eric

I also knew the correct phrase but chose to quote his original post.

i actually remembered most of that rosie

the man of la mancha is one of my all time favorite plays.


in that vein do you still disagree with the phrase?

I still say that "all's NOT fair in love and war", eric.

I had not experience war myself but my parents did during the second world war.
But I had experience love and had my heart broken many times, but hey that's life.

Merry Christmas, eric

btw, the man of la mancha is also one of my all time favourite.

Um, what is the word that I am looking for?

Oh yeah, now I remember it.

I never understood that saying. "All is fair in love and war"? What?

simply put cat...
like in war where any means used to win is acceptable so it is in matters of love

Does that mean I still have a chance to date catinidaho?

only is she says you can

yess

Sort of.
No one is perfectly ethical.
Ultimately, IMO, everyone will do things against their ethics, values, or identity, for the sake of "winning" (love or a fight), rationalizing why they "had" to do it.

"Everything is fair in love and war," is not a saying meant to give you permission to behave however you want to any degree, so much as a saying expressing the realization that pretty much everyone compromises who they think they are (behaves like an idiot, solipsist, or an a-hole) for the sake of the ultimate benefit/survival. That everyone rationalizes their "bad" behavior.

This saying is not said by a person who feels they have been treated nicely. This is said by someone who wants revenge. All is fair depending on how they were treated. You may as well say tit for tat. Also, this saying is not an excuse to behave in a cheating manner. We should all strive to be good to each other. Merry Christmas to all n be good.

OP you or that saying is absolutely true !!!!

Because in war the rules go out the window. ..
In love the rules are ignored