Someone I used to chat with on this site sent me a disturbing note.

OK, he was kind of vague about what was going on in his life while we were communicating. For instance, we had been having pretty personal talks when all of a sudden....nothing. I didn't think anything for a couple of days, but then it went into several days with no response to my emails.

Because of that, I became worried and told him so in my emails.

Well, when he did get back to me, he had little explanation for the time offline. OK, so in the meantime, the relationship between Tom and I became more serious. So, after explaining to this person that I could not deal with the secrecy, avoidance, side-stepping, etc., I moved on; at least from the "couple" stage, anyway.

Yes, I deleted him from my friends list, and did not respond to his subsequent emails. The reason I did this is because I did not want to mislead him into thinking there was anything serious between myself and him.

So.........when I saw that he was "off the market," I emailed him and told him that I was happy for him and wanted to keep in touch because I, too, was happy/newly married.

He responded to me this morning and said that he had had the worst night of his life and that a bullet to his head was "looking pretty good."

I wrote back and told him to talk to someone and NOT to entertain that thought anymore~ Now I realize sometimes a person needs to vent, but I am kind of worried.

I know I have little to no control over the situation, but I am worried, nonetheless. He doesn't post here, and he is not on my friends list. I just feel bad for him and guess I just wanted to know if anyone had any ideas.

I'm VERY limited here.......I don't have any vital info on him such as his address, telephone number (we talked via computer), friend's phone numbers or names, etc.

I think I know that there is nothing else I can do, so if you will, just keep him in your prayers.............

Thanks...............

Write him back and ask him whats going on... maybe see if you can get him to call you? It could be all a bluff to try and make you feel guilty, but it might not be. You won't know until you talk to him. If you are really worried, try and find out what happened.

Thanks, Jill, I did. He did tell me a bit of what had transpired...a breakup with his girlfriend and a brief discription of the surrounding circumstances. But, as we all know...with a day or two, it is NEVER as bad as it seems.

And yes, I did ask him to contact me....I hope he will.....

Seems to me like he's trying to make you feel this way because you are now happily married.

i have been through this many times...not the one with the bullet but like you have been told the same...first tell them to get professional help..second tell them you are not involved with them and donot want to here it period..this is typical"do you care about me B.S."..tell them to grow up and move on in life..

If you talk to him, try not to get to involved... It's one thing to be concerned, it's another to take it upon yourself to "fix" it for him. If you get to involved he may think there is still something left between you two.
Stay distant, just be a friend but make sure he knows that.

I agree with Jill let him know u are there as a Friend but nothing more!!!

Send a copy of email to mike or van they can track IP easily and take any neccessary steps to contact authorities.

Wow, I think you guys know me..........I'm glad you are giving me good advice, because, YES, I would want to "fix" him. Thanks, guys.............

Thanks, Kojack, I will. I guess it is possible that he would get angry about my doing so, but if it helps him in the long run......