I am having problems with my 7 year old son. He is constantly getting introuble at school and it seems as if he is in his own little world but at the same time wants the rest of the world's attention. He will lie, manipulate and even harm others inorder to get attention. I need help from other parents. Any advice?

beat his...........

wow!

i feel for you..

Does his father crave attention, as well?

I have trust me, but to him it is just more attention even though painful.

I have a very close relationship with his father and we both provide alot of one on one time with him.

Tough love can be so hard to give, my daughter was that way for a period in her life (around 7) sometimes lack of discipline leads them to acting out. Children want to have discipline and boundaries, they want our attention. I had issues with being what I considered "a mean mommy" but it's not mean, it's just setting boundaries that in the end help your child immensely. With my daughter it was giving her two choices... that's it!

I.E. "You can brush your teeth now and watch a video afterwards, or you can not brush your teeth and go to bed NOW"

It's amazing how simple it is, and yes, you will have tantrums, but pretty soon they learn that one choice is pretty awesome, the other, not so awesome. Makes everyone's life easier.

hope that helps

As much as I hate them....I would recommend a counselor. If he is to the point of harming people then there is a chance that it will take more than just you to resolve the issues.

If he is "acting out" as dramatically as you have seemed to put it (it sounds "constantly") and if it is, there may be something more serious going on..so do some heavy checking, and maybe get a good couselor involved.

If this is something that has just "popped" out of the blue..DEFINITELY seek IMMEDIATE help, because it may be a warning sign something is/has happened in your son's life.

If he's been kinda that way and just getting worse, then just go with some counseling stuff.

Hope this helps!

At home his great, as long as he has one on one attention. In school and sports is where he has the trouble.

he is probably contaminated from the inoculations for school...
i recommend a complete body Detox....

or at least a good colon cleansing

Sit down with the school counselor, talk to his teachers, they see your child all day, and might know something that is bothering him that he doesn't want to share with you.

It has been getting progressively worse. He has always demanded attention.

A positive male role model in the family needs to 'step in' and take authority. The boy has to learn basic respect principals from a strong, positive, yet stern man.

i don't think you took me seriously....no joke...

The father and I share equal time ( one week with me and one week with him). Do you think more time with Dad would benefit?

I agree, but also know that she can be that strong and positive and stern WOMAN...

Good idea

I have read that at this point in a boys life they start to break away from the Mother-son bond and start to lean more towards the father. That is why I asked about the visitation schedule.

Well if his dad is that way, then maybe have him take him on "special" trips to the zoo or something... but don't reward his bad behavior... life is full of consequences, if we don't teach our children that now, their lives will be much harder in the end

Ok, then its a much easier situation to handle. I am glad to here its nothing "sudden", thats always the worst cases.

Now its basically a battle of "wills". Honestly it sounds like you have already given him "too much rope", hence he is not willing to "control" his behavior..because obviously he can.

So be the parent..MAKE him behave. "Spare the rod, spoil the child", but ALWAYS do it in LOVE...NEVER out of ANGER! Sometimes the best way to get the wax out of a child's unhearing ears is a good swat on the backside!

You have a common, but usually easily solved problem