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"I think to not feel at all, apathy, is also an opposite of love." Apathy or not to feel anything is the sign of a Psychopath! Actually not true at all. If you look at the actions of many psychopaths, there's very much so a lot of emotion being expressed, but that's another topic. |
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Edited by
IgorFrankensteen
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Fri 02/01/19 04:36 AM
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I want to point out for consideration, how this is all another example of a larger common human behavior or "habit."
That is, it's affected by a combination of a couple of things people like to do, or do sloppily. First, we like to categorize and sort things, for logical and practical reasons. And we like to talk to each other about everything, as a part of exchanging what we learn for what others have learned, as a natural part of working to protect ourselves and improve our own lives. This is what led to us coming up with the WORDS Love and Hate. The second "habit," is that people can be and often are careless or sloppy about our sorting activities, once we have the "bins" set up. Mainly because we want to sort as quickly as we can, in order to make as much personal and collective progress as we can. What all THAT is leading up to, is that I see frequently, that lots of things get tossed into our bin labeled "hate," that really are something else. And once we mis-sort something, the sloppiness of our sorting, can lead directly to taking the wrong ACTIONS for what we do about what we put in the various "bins." Some things that people call "hate," are actually angers. Frustrations. Sometimes people even put something that is actually a weird variation of LOVE, into the "hate bin." For example, what I've OFTEN witnessed directly, is how much delight certain people feel, when they publicly attack someone or something else. Attacking with a sense of self-righteous purpose, appears to be more fun than anything else in life, to some people. To me, that kind of nearly pure joy, shouldn't be carelessly tossed into the "hate bin," without a LOT of careful scrutiny. In fact, I've often witnessed people actively searching for additional people or things to direct claimed "hate" at, in order to get that rush of self-righteousness and self-adoration. There is no way that that kind of pure pleasure-seeking should go into the same category as the kind of feeling people get, that is so painful and self-immolating, that we know it as "hate." For myself, I eventually increased my "emotional sorting bins," as I saw more complexity in all this, until it's rare for me to put much of anything into either of the original "love" or "hate" bins. That doesn't mean I love the world, or feel less pain and anger than anyone else, particularly when I am suffering abuse or intellectual assault. It just means that I am loathe to say "that's hate," or "that's love," when something happens. My ex's who caused me the greatest and ongoing pain that I continue to carry, I can't say I "hate." I have worked hard to understand all that happened to me, and why people who claimed to care for me caused such pain. The more I've understood, the less I've felt pure anger at the people, and the more I've felt more of a sad regret that I didn't understand sooner than I did. So I guess what I'm trying to get at, is to suggest we all be careful what we toss into our "hate bin," mainly because whenever we complete a "sorting action" like that, we tend to stop investigating what's really going on, and end up building our ongoing futures, on how clever we feel about all our "sorting," rather than on what actually transpired in our lives. |
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