As far as I'm concerned, what y'all do to find your own contentment is not my place to judge.
You are both contented, right?

You might find some friends in the forums but you may be hard pressed to find anyone interested in joining you but y'all didn't say that.




What your two posts indicate is that you are looking for validation from people that have suffered some type of relationship snafu?
You might ask yourself why you seek validation?


The thing about 'thinking' is that it is a purely personal thing.
Chances are, one 'thinks' and the other 'agrees'.
If this is what you need, go for it.
Just try to realize that the one agreeing may not always agree.

If the one doing the 'thinking' finds out the one doing the 'agreeing' no longer agrees, are you willing to abandon these preferences to preserve the marriage or is it an "either agree or bye bye" type of agreement?

Just remember that we all change as time passes.